Swinging; Are You Interested? Could You Do It? Do You Indulge?

Last night I watched an interesting documentary on swinging (Also known as partner swapping, wife swapping) I was fascinated to find that there are many different reasons people choose to take part in these activities. Some people are just curious and keen to explore to find out what all the fuss is about, some looking to experience new and exciting friendships with the view to fulfil their fantasies, some couples engage in these activities because they believe it will strengthen their relationships. When I decided to write this post I done a bit of snooping on the web and I was interested to find there are even websites dedicated to swingers, to help them meet other swingers like Swinger Nation Ireland there are chat rooms and forums where swingers openly speak about meet ups and other activities related to swinging.

Throughout the programme and my research on the subject this morning, one thing stood out to me, these couples maintained happy, strong relationships built on mutual understanding and in my opinion it seems the swinging was not seen as an act of sex but something fun to do with someone you love.

It also came to my attention that there were many single people females & males that took part in swinging and they were equally as involved as the couples. One lady spoke about how she generally despised the dating process and would rather meet at swinger parties/meetings where it is acceptable  to have sex on the spot with whoever they meet and feel attracted to.

I have always been very broad-minded and respect everyone’s lifestyle decisions.  I do understand  why swinging appeals to couples, as long as both partners are happy, its something you both want to explore and you can establish the difference between making love and having sex,  I say go for it!

So whats your take on swinging? Are you interested? Do you indulge? Have you tried it? 


Flattering Sex Positions And Tips For Fat Days! (We All Have Them)

Flattering Sex Positions And Tips For Fat Days! (We All Have Them)

Fat Days, unfortunately we all have them whether we’re a size 6 or 26!, but just because you’re  bloated or feeling self-conscious or you haven’t attended the gym enough this week,  doesn’t mean there has to be a no-sex rule!

There’s nothing that’s more of a mood-killer than being paranoid and struggling around trying to cover up your stomach or bickering about not having the lights on.

The first step to great sex is embracing your body and making use of it. If your partner is in bed with you, his main concern is going to be having sex with the beautiful woman in front of him!!

Here are a few positions to help you to fight the flab and feel great, leaving you to focus on having fun and not worrying about what you look like.


Missionary: Gravity is your friend in this case! Your stomach will automatically look flatter.

Tip:Make yourself look sexier by stretching your arms up over your head and grabbing onto the bedpost or by placing them flat on the wall behind the bed. It will make your stomach look flatter and your boobs perkier!

What is he seeing: He cannot even see your stomach if he is on top of you stomach-stomach and only a glimpse if he is kneeling a bit! He will get a good glimpse of your breasts, but will most likely be  looking into your eyes which makes for a very intimate time!

spooningDoggy Style: Rear entry positions are the most flattering, especially if your stomach is your least favourite part of yourself.

Tip: Arch your back a little and push your bum high in his direction, giving you a sexy feminine curve which he will find tantalizingly attractive! 

What he is seeing: He will only be able to see your bum, your thighs and your back. You could place  his hands on your hips to hold you steady while he thrusts, and you’ve also solved the wandering hands problem.

doggy style

Spooning: Spooning is among the best  positions to hide your stomach, your boobs and the front of your body

Tip: Lift your bum to allow him to penetrate, and tighten your thighs for maximum friction while his hands reach around to stimulate your clitoris. 

What he is seeing: The front of your body is hidden, so he will only be able to see you from behind, and since his front will be to your back that wont be much! Make plenty of satisfied moans and groans and perhaps stick on a porn DVD to give you something to look at and create maximum arousal.

Want more Ideas?

Try these blog posts:

100 Sex Positions To Spice Up Your Love Life (And Get Exercise Too, It’s All Good!)

Feeling Saucy? 7 Hot Ideas To Spice Up Your Sex Life! (That’s One For Each Day!)

The Frisky Girls To Do List.

For The Single Ladies: Sex Toys, Which One Is For You?

Feeling Saucy? 7 Hot Ideas To Spice Up Your Sex Life! (That’s One For Each Day!)

Feeling Saucy? 7 Hot Ideas To Spice Up Your Sex Life! (That’s One For Each Day!)


1. The Art Of  Anticipation

Send him messages via SMS or email (his personal email account, please) detailing what you’ve lined up for the evening

How? During the day while your partner is at work, drop him a text or phone call and tell him what your  going to do to him that night. He will be all pumped up – and you can be sure he will be back home on the dot.

2. Getting Visual

Men are visual creatures, Let yourself be seen.

How?  Put on smoky eye shadows and red lipstick and walk around in one of your sexy lingerie to get him in the mood, for example if he is glued to the football match on TV, start hoovering the room in your undies, and it will be 1-0 to you.

3. Tease, Tease, Tease

Play a game.

How? Try  touching each other all you  like, but your not allowed to touch yourself and not allowed to have sex. The first one to give in has to do what the other says. You bet you will be trying your best to bring the other down!

4, Bring Out Your Adventurous Side

Variety is the spice of (sex) life. Don’t stick to the same old routine everytime. Try new locations, new positions, new lingerie, new toys – anything to trigger intrigue and spark fresh excitement.

How? Perhaps you could experiment with digital cameras set on self-timers and video cams. The idea of another ‘eye’ watching you trysting in bed could make the sex twice as hot!


5. Explore Each Other’s Wildest Fantasies

Everyone has sexual fantasies. If you are comfortable, share your fantasies with your partner and encourage him to do the same. Acting on things that get him hot will have him begging for more.

How?  If you are both shy, instead of revealing your fantasies, we wrote down a list of things that we will not do. Meanwhile, you could be happily trying out stuff that are not in the list – and you will be able to tell which are the turn-ons from the reactions!

6. Raunchy Reading

Nuzzle up and read sex advice books or erotic literature together. You can update your lovemaking skills and discover each other’s sexual fantasies.

How? You may enjoy reading erotica online together. Find some where there are no pictures, so every fantasy is limited only by your imagination. You could agree on a ‘rule’ to finish at least five stories, so by the time your done reading you can’t keep your hands off each other!

7.  Sex & Shopping?.. The Wonderful World Of Adult Toys

             How?  Though you know all about the toys, You would be surprised at the arousal you could get just by looking at the displays..Treat yourself to something even as simple as  a vibrator, and  I bet you can’t  wait to get home to try it!

hello clitty

Want More Ideas? 

Try These 100 Sex Positions to Spice Up Your Sex Life 

The Frisky Girls To Do List

The Frisky Girls To Do List

Explore your wildest fantasies with my ‘Frisky Girls To Do List’  Find your inner most sexual animal and unleash it upon your lover(s) whenever and wherever!

Ignite your sexual flame and heat up your sex life like you could never imagine!

The Frisky Girls To Do List will do all of that and more!

New places, new setting, new times! Yes, all new Thrills! You will have fun, you will always be one each others minds, and bodies 

But most importantly you will find a way to explore new sexual heights  that you never thought  you would reach!

Instead of the boring, “So you wanna to have sex?” now you’ll say, “Lets get the list out”

  1. Sex it up in a public place
  2. Go to a lingerie party, buy some sexy lingerie and wear it for someones entertainment
  3. Have some car sex
  4. Engage in some Costume play/ Roll play
  5. Have an office romance— doesn’t have to be full-on, but a kiss by the copier never hurt anyone
  6. Hook up with someone you’ll never see again
  7. Wield a riding crop or whip
  8. Sit on his face
  9. Hit the big O at the same time
  10. Ride him like a cowboy on top
  11. Ride him reverse cowboy
  12. Use sex toys  (click for the link to my blog (‘Sex Toys: Which ones right for you’)
  13. Do someone with a a circumcised penis
  14. Bar/ pub bathroom sex
  15. Shower sex
  16. Food play- Strawberries, Whipped cream and so on
  17. Masturbate
  18. Get a couples massage
  19. Be the dom
  20. Be the sub
  21. Wear nothing but heels whilst having sex
  22. Give him a sneaky peak of  your boobs or bum in public (be a devil, just make sure you don’t get arrested)
  23. Hit a strip club
  24. Do a strip tease yourself
  25. Lace up in a corset
  26. Get tied up (be sure to have a safe word!)
  27. Act out your partner’s sexual fantasy
  28. (At least) kiss another girl
  29. Kiss a random stranger
  30. Get your toes licked
  31. Get your hair pulled
  32. Get spanked
  33. The ol’ finger in the bum
  34. Give someone your panties
  35. Wear some Sex Eggs whilst on a date
  36. Help someone heal sexy nurse-style
  37. Pose for a camera (for some form of naked documentation)
  38. Have cyber sex
  39. Have phone sex
  40. Get bent over the kitchen counter
  41. Get dick slapped
  42. Get a pearl necklace
  43. Do someone with a shaven haven
  44. Do someone strong & ripped
  45. Do it doggy-style
  46. Have morning sex
  47. Have sober sex
  48. Have drunk sex
  49. Watch someone put on a sexy show for you
  50. Be watched while you put on your own sexy show
  51. Sex up someone older
  52. Swallow
  53. Give a hand job with your non-dominant hand
  54. Make-up sex
  55. Breakup sex (aka “last licks”)
  56. 69
  57. Work your way through myblog post 100 Sex Positions to spice up your life
  58. Keep updating this list with whatever your heart desires.