Oh Joy! Answers.

Oh Joy! Answers.

This image pretty much sums up how I’m feeling right now. I’ve been lost for a few weeks, in a cycle of episodes, up, down, around, hyper, confused, anxious, excited, It’s been a real Borderline Roller Coaster but I knew that soon enough I would have an epiphany.

This happens now and again after I have these cycles of mixed emotions and feel like I’m stuck in a rut. Now that I know myself better and how my episodes and mood swings work,  I recognise the stages and I know that soon enough things will feel different.

It happened this morning, suddenly it all made sense and ideas and creativity were flowing, its been staring me in the face and I had been working towards my goals without even knowing they were my goals. I now feel excited, relieved to have found a solution to end my angst and my creative juices are flowing. I’m ready for new adventures and challenges and suddenly I  know exactly what I need to do. I have found my path and realised what my next steps are to further my career.

It feels pretty great, It’s fascinating how the Borderline mind works..passion, creativity and our ability to change are my favourite traits.

It has been suggested that Vincent Van Gogh, who famously cut off part of his own ear, and writers Ernest Hemingway and Sylvia Plath, both who took their own lives, may have suffered from Borderline Personality Disorder. They are just some of many famous creative icons who supposedly struggled with BPD.

For me; I’m all about embracing the positives of this disorder. If you need me, I’ll be busy for the next few days, planning world domination..

My creative gifts are worth the mental illness, I’ve suffered for them.  


Keeping Your Bathroom Organised

Keeping Your Bathroom Organised


The first step toward achieving an organized bathroom is to remove the clutter.

This includes checking the medicine cabinet, linen closet, vanity cabinet and drawers and any other storage spaces you have in your bathroom.

Here is what you need to do:
Remove any items that do not belong in your bathroom. Put these items in the room where they belong.
get rid of any unwanted items from your bathroom and into their correct places

Dispose of expired medications. Contact your local pharmacy to find out how to properly dispose of the specific medications you have.
Dispose of old, unused or no longer wanted person items such as perfumes, make-up, moisturizers, etc.

Once your Bathroom has had a Thorough Clean, Be sure that you keep organization in mind when you are deciding where to put the items you keep in your bathroom. Use these guidelines.

The Medicine Cabinet
Since a medicine cabinet is typically limited in space, but very easy to get to, it should be reserved for items that are used very frequently.

The Vanity
Hairbrushes, Straightners and blow dryers fit nicely into most vanity drawers. Since these drawers are also easily accessible you should use them to store items that you use frequently.
Vanity cabinets are perfect for larger items such as extra towels and toiletries such as extra shampoo bottles or to keep your wastebasket out of sight. Place less frequently used items toward the back of the cabinet and more frequently used items in front.

The Linen Closet
If you are fortunate enough to have a linen closet in or near your bathroom, storage should never be an issue. Everything you need can be stored in a linen closet and it can all be easily accessible if you take the time to organize it.
Fold towels neatly on one shelf. Place supplies such as extra toilet paper and facial tissues on another. Use plastic totes to contain medicines, make-up and cleansers. Place more frequently used items in front and lesser used items in back.

Keep Your Bathroom Well Stocked
Keep your bathroom filled with the items required for that bathroom’s use. Make a note of what you may require to add to your ‘shopping essentials list’
a supply of toilet tissue, facial tissue and hand soap, require shampoo, conditioner, bath towels, washcloths and other toiletries used in your daily routine.
It is much easier to replace used supplies with fresh ones if the supplies are right there in the room and easy to grab. So as you are organizing your bathroom, be sure to find an appropriate home for the necessary supply stock.
Now that you have learned how to organize a bathroom, it will be much easier and you will spend less time cleaning.

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Organising And Keeping Your Child’s Room Tidy

Children need a quiet place to calm themselves down at the end of a busy day.

Organize your child’s room and then encourage them to help you keep it that way.

If there is less clutter for distraction, you will find that it is easier to get them to settle down during bedtime – or anytime they need a break.

Make sure you get your kids in on the action when you organize their bedroom. Have them help you so that they understand how you expect their room to look. This way, when you assign them chores in order to keep their bedrooms clean, they will know exactly what to do.

Declutter Keep toys to a minimum.

Make sure you have adequate shelving or storage space for the toys and make it a house rule that all toys must be put away each night before bedtime.

Grab anything that belongs in another room in the house. Move these items to the appropriate room.

Take a careful look around the room for clutter.

Don’t forget to check the closet. Clutter includes outgrown toys and clothes, and all unused or unwanted items.

Move all of these items to Clutter Central.

Dispose of rubbish or recycling.

The Clean Sweep

Now that your child’s room is clutter-free it will be much easier to clean. Now is the perfect time for a thorough cleaning.

Strip the bed and wash the bedding.

Remake the bed with fresh, clean sheets.

Remove all dirty laundry from the room.

Wash and dry it all and then have your child help you put it all away.

If your child does not have a laundry hamper, get one.

Teaching your child to put dirty clothes into a hamper is an easy way to help teach them to keep their room more organized.

If there are clean clothes laying around your child’s room that have not been folded and put away have your child help you do that now.

Take window curtains down and throw them in the dryer to remove dust.

Wash the windows and blinds.

Vacuum, including using the crevice attachment to get into the corners and along the walls and use the extension attachment to clear dust and cobwebs from the ceiling.

Dust all surfaces, headboard, footboard, and knick knacks

Wash the overhead light fixture and ceiling fan blades.

Simple Maintenance

Now that you have taken the time to organize and thoroughly clean your child’s bedroom, enlist the help of your kids to keep it that way. Here are some rules to follow:

Have your children make their beds every morning.

Have your children put all their toys, books or games away before going to bed each night.

Teach your children to place their dirty clothes in their laundry to keep it off of their bedroom floor.

When you do laundry, put your children in charge of putting their own clothes away.

Be sure to wash the bed sheets at least once per week.

Children can be in charge of stripping their own beds and bringing the bedding to the laundry room.

If they are old enough, they can also remake their own beds.

Vacuum and dust thoroughly at least once each week.

If your children are old enough, they can do this themselves. It is a good idea to use a chore chart, especially for younger children, to help your kids remember and be responsible for the tasks you ask them to accomplish.

Keeping the Kitchen Organised and Clean

Keeping the Kitchen Organised and Clean

Why should you take the time to learn how to organize your kitchen?

The kitchen is the heart of the home. It is where people tend to gather during parties, it is where you prepare meals for your family and friends and it can be a room you enjoy being in if you follow some simple tips to help you keep it organized.

Identify and Fix Hot Spots
Hot spots are areas in your home that seem to attract clutter and disorganization and a kitchen is full of them!

How to Organize Kitchen Counters
Kitchen counters are prime suspects for clutter. They get filled with mail and other papers, and overcrowded with small appliances and decorative accessories.

There are some simple things you can do to de-clutter your kitchen counters:
Place a basket near your entry door, or mount an organizer on the wall to hold the daily mail.
Reserve counter space only for appliances that are used every day. Appliances that are only used occasionally should be stored inside a cabinet or nearby closet.
Limit the number of decorative items you place on your counters. Your kitchen will look more beautiful if it is well organized. Bring any unnecessary decorative items to Clutter Central.

How to Organize Kitchen Cabinets
Kitchen cabinets can become cluttered, making it impossible to find what you need when you need it. Learn how to organize your kitchen cabinets and simplify your life.

Here’s how:
First, remove everything from all of your cabinets. Spread the items out on the counters and a table, if necessary.
If you see anything that you simply never use bring it to Clutter Central. Since your cabinets are now empty, this would be a great time to give them a thorough cleaning.

Next, separate the items you use frequently from the items that you do not use very often.
The Items you don’t use as often should be placed in high cupboards or cupboards further away.

Last, separate the frequently used items into groups: pots and pans, mixing bowls, dinnerware, serving pieces, etc.
Put these items away in the most logical location depending upon their use:
Place pots and pans in a cabinet near the oven.
Place dinnerware in a cabinet near the table or entrance to the dining room.
You get the idea.

Remember to put heavier items in lower cabinets or on the lowest shelf of upper cabinets. The key is to make the most efficient use of your kitchen storage.
You can also take care in arranging cabinets that you use to store food items and organize your pantry.

How to Organize Kitchen Drawers
Having drawers in your kitchen can be a real luxury. Your use of drawers will depend on how many you have.
You will need a drawer for cutlery, which can easily be kept tidy using a cutlery organizer.

If you have a drawer near your food preparation area, I would suggest purchasing an in-drawer knife organizer. It will eliminate a knife block from your counter top and it will protect your knife blades – and your fingers when you reach for a knife inside the drawer.

Drawers can also be the perfect spot to store dish towels, food storage bags, plastic wraps and foils, serving utensils and any other small kitchen accessory you need to store.

Keep your kitchen drawers organized by following these guidelines:
Group similar items together.

Do not overstuff your drawers or you will never be able to find anything in them.
Store items in drawers located nearest to where the items will be used. Place knifes in a drawer near the food preparation area, place cutlery in a drawer near the table, etc.

Avoid the junk drawer!
Many people have a tendency to create a junk drawer for all of those little things that tend to gather in the kitchen. It starts off as a good idea, but a junk drawer can quickly turn into a disorganized disaster.
Do not rob yourself of valuable drawer storage by giving in to the junk drawer!
Assess the items you have in your junk drawer. Determine the best home for these items and put them there. If some items do not have an existing home, create one for them. Be persistent. The reward will be an organized kitchen.

Make it Efficient
Now that you have learned how to organize your kitchen, here are some tips you may want to consider to keep it running smoothly:

If you do a lot of cooking invest in a large chopping block. They are indispensable for making meal preparation more efficient. You can chop every ingredient in the recipe and place them in piles on the board where they will be ready and waiting for you when you need them.
Be sure to have a plastic or silicone cutting mat on hand to use when chopping meats. These mats can be placed in the dishwasher to sanitize them after use and you don’t have to worry about germs gathering on your wood board.
Consider placing all of your cooking utensils in a jar next to the oven. No more digging around in a drawer to find that spatula you are looking for.Everything is visible and within easy reach when you are cooking.

Reserve the cabinets around the stove for cooking-related items like measuring cups, spices, oils and seasonings. This way, if you need something while you are cooking you never have to walk away from the stove.

If you bake a lot, create a baking center in your kitchen. Keep all of your baking necessities together and place them as close to your preparation surface as possible.

Simple Maintenance

As you go through the steps above to get your kitchen into tip top shape, take a few extra minutes to wipe out the insides of your cabinets and drawers while they are empty. Give the sink and the counters a good scrubbing and thoroughly wash the floor.

Now that you have completed a clean sweep and figured out how to organize your kitchen let’s talk about how you can keep it looking that way.
Keep your sink and counters clean daily. Place dirty dishes into the dishwasher or wash them immediately to keep them out of the sink.
Keep your counters cleared by returning items to their rightful homes and not letting them pile up in your kitchen.

While cleaning up after dinner, wipe your sink and counters with a disinfecting cleanser every night.
Keep your stove top clean by wiping it after each use.
At least once per week remove the burners and burner covers and give them a thorough cleaning.
A good way to clean your burners is to spray them thoroughly with oven cleaner, place them in a plastic bag and tie it tightly.
Leave them over night and rinse them off in the morning.
At least once per month clean your oven, or run the self-cleaning cycle
At least once per week, wipe down the outsides of all cabinets and drawers.
At least once per month wipe down the tops of your cabinets.
Keep the floor swept as often as necessary to keep it free from debris.
Wash the floor at least once per week.

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Keeping The Bedroom Organised and Tidy

Keeping The Bedroom Organised and Tidy

When it comes to household organization, I always recommend that you organize your bedroom first. Let me tell you why.
Most people neglect the private spaces in their homes, thinking that since nobody will ever see those spaces, it doesn’t really matter whether or not they are neat and organized.

This type of thinking could not be more wrong. It does matter…to you!

Your master bedroom should be your peaceful haven. It should be the place you can go at the end of a long day to unwind, relax and rejuvenate.

Also, your bedroom is the first thing you see when you wake up every morning. It sets the tone for the rest of your day. If you open your eyes to clutter, you will start your day feeling overwhelmed. But if you open your eyes to organization just think of the motivation you will feel and how that can carry you through the rest of your day!

4 Piles Rule

Firstly, engage the 4 piles rule- and make spaces for the boxes.

(Keep, donate, bin & unsure)

There will also need to be a space for item’s to be re-interrogated back into the room.

What’s in there?

Take a good look at the flat surfaces in the room I.e. anything that will act as a dumping ground for things that haven’t made it to their rightful resting place. Look at bedside tables, dressing tables, Drawers and Chairs.

Starting with one surface at a time, take all the items off and move them away from the area.

Put back ONLY  what needs and makes practical sense to be there.

The remaining items should fit into the 4 piles.

Miscellaneous drawers, knick-knacks, jewellery, socks, underwear, make up, products etc. These are best tackled by taking your time, removing the drawer and sitting calmly and quietly sorting through each item.

Bedside Tables
What’s living in your bedside Tables: Do you use or even need anything or everything on them? If not, Clear them away.

Do not overload your space:

limit it to things you need- an alarm clock, a reading book, reading glasses, tissues, and maybe a phone.

Under Beds

Clear everything out from under beds that are not properly stored in storage boxes, bags or baskets.

If you do need to use this space invest in storage boxes or purpose made under bed storage boxes & bags. This doesn’t have to be expensive!.

Dressing Table
Tidy up your dressing table and only keep out products and cosmetics that you use on a regular basis. All other items should be stored out of sight or in drawers.

Clear surfaces
Having Surfaces full of nick- nak’s in your bedroom, just creates a dusting and cleaning nightmare!

As well as making your room look cluttered pack away at least 80 % of the knick-knacks and keep out only 20 % of really special items.

No desks
If you have a desk in your bedroom, arrange to move it to another room if possible. Bedrooms are not the place for work  of any kind or PC’s.If you cant find a place to move it straight away then give yourself a deadline to find a more suitable place for it to be.

Storage / Space Saving tips
Use your wall space to erect some shelving to display decorative items photos or books .Use deeper shelves for folded clothes. For narrow shelves store books, CD’s and other smaller items such as photos, or carefully chosen decorative items.

Where possible use the tops of wardrobes for out of season clothes, linen or seasonal duvets.
Fold bed linen sets together: Duvet, pillow cases, bottom sheet and valance. Use one of the pillow cases to store the set in, this makes it easier out and saves time having to search for each item.

Tops of dressers are useful for keeping items out that are used on a daily basis, such as perfumes, hair styling products, creams and lotions, hand mirrors etc, but be careful not to allow your surfaces to become cluttered!.

Plastic Drawer dividers are great for separating the contents of your drawers for items such as : Socks, Underwear, Cosmetics & Products, Or if cost is an issue  you can use old boxes or shoe boxes to act as dividers in your drawers.

Store all other products & lotions & potions in wicker baskets, they look great and are handy for keeping everything together.

Pin Boards can also be really useful for utiltising wall space for other storage needs to, Such as, Photos, memorabilia, Cards, Calendars, Reminders, business cards, etc.

Keep items small or medium sized otherwise your board will be swamped.

Invest in a magazine rack that goes on the wall, this will stop it from overflowing on the floor.

Throw out read magazines once a week!

Hooks: Use hooks near your mirror to hand your hairdryer straighter etc on. Saves space and no Tackling wires every morning

Clean the floor! One Rule NOT to be broken! If it doesn’t rightfully belong there, then do not put it down.

Put away!: DO not fold clothes in the bedroom- they seldom get put away!!!

No clothes on the floor, OR over the chairs, banisters or anywhere else where they can be abandoned indefinitely! They either belong in the laundry or in the wardrobe. NO EXCUSES

Gorgeous Bed
Make your bed look fabulous, Luxurious and something that anyone would want to sink into! Buy good quality linen for maximum comfort and a great look. Using a Duvet that is one size bigger than the bed will make it look really inviting and plush. it’s the central feature of your bedroom so make it stand out and bask in its glory!

If you have lots of jewellery
Buy a jewellery to display jewellery and help you see exactly what you have each day. But a cheaper option is a mug tree, they do the same job and look as good!Use a cork board or pin board to hang your items on, if you want it to blend with your bedroom, then cover it with some fabric!

Use Towel Rails for Scarves & Belts!

Simple Maintenance
Now that we have talked about how to organize your room, let’s talk about how to keep it that way. Here are some simple things that you can do to keep your room looking its best.

Take the time to make your bed every morning.

Open your window blinds every morning and let the sun shine in!

Sunshine will make your nice, clean room feel warm and cosy.

You will grow to love that feeling and you will be more likely to keep your room clean.

Be sure to wash your bed sheets at least once per week.

If you have a laundry hamper in your bedroom, make sure you keep it under control.

Try to get into the habit of doing at least one load of laundry every day..Vacuum and dust thoroughly at least once each week.

Hire a cleaner once a week for a thorough clean of the entire house.

If you find that you gradually start to slip and your master bedroom begins to look cluttered again start again!

Now that you know how to organize a bedroom, I hope that you will discover the satisfaction of reclaiming your own peaceful haven.



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Good Behaviour Reward Jar. From Childzilla To Princess With This Simple Method.


Hello September, Back to School Routines & The Countdown To Christmas, Goodbye Sleep in’s and The Fight With Children’s Boredom!

I have recently been thinking of putting some kind of reward system in place for my daughter Emily who is 6. She is generally a good girl, but for a while now I”ve been seeing a lot more bad behaviour, ignorance, pushing the boundaries and  being a little monster in general.

I expect its due to the long six weeks holidays (which thankfully end tomorrow! yayy) I have loved having her here with me all the time and we have been on many day trips and holidays but the more she slips out of the routine the harder life is becoming.

Anyway, I have been thinking about a new  reward chart, we had one previously and it worked at the time but I think she has given up and grown out of it.  I remember seeing on a Super Nanny episode some time ago a marble jar reward system which seemed effective and I really liked the idea of it.

Basically the idea is you have a bag of marbles/buttons/balls or anything you can find, I will be using straws (see below)  that I have cut down and an empty jar.


A  ‘straw’ is placed in the jar for good behaviour, When the jar is full she gets a reward, our first ‘jar full’ will earn her £5 she will take this to the pound shop and choose 5 items (toys, books, make up etc). I will also be using rewards such as a trip to the cinema, a magazine, making cakes, a trip to the seaside. Depending on what your child likes. I got Emily involved in choosing the rewards so she is excited about getting all the straws into the jar

You would  need to specify exactly what earns a straw, I have a basic set of rules which I will specify below, but you can change them depending on what you’re trying to achieve and improve, so I’m going  to use the straw/jar method to address the issues with my daughter which are basically sticking to the rules. Then if she  is doesn’t stick to the rules or doesn’t do what she is  supposed to, a straw gets removed. . I personally will be giving Emily a warning, if she then ignores I would remove a straw.

I have heard of people using 2 jars one for putting a marble when they do something good, and on for when they’re naughty, then at the end of say, a week, the jar with the most marbles will decide whether the child receives a reward or a punishment, though I have to say I don’t like this method personally. My daughter responds really well to praise and so I don’t like the idea of a naughty jar.
I have also heard of some people putting a small monetary value to each marble (straw), so at the end of a chosen length of time (ie a week), the marbles get added up and it equates to a certain amount of money which the child then gets to choose to either save (yeah right!!) or spend on a treat (sweets/toy maybe).

I have sat down with Emily and discussed the rules, the straw jar and the rewards so she has a full understanding of the concept.


So far she has went to bed on time, got up made her bed and started tidying the front room an helped make breakfast! The house seems much more peaceful today and we are preparing for the ‘Back to School Routine’


These are the rules I have set for Emily, I went through each rule and explained why it applies to her so she understands why she should or should not be doing it:



Be gentle

Be kind & helpful

Listen to people

Be honest

Play nicely

Talk nicely

Be polite

Tidy up after yourself

Do as your told


Hurt others

Hurt people’s feelings

Damage or spoil/ruin things


Cover up the truth / tell lies

Answer back

Be rude

Make mess & not tidy it up

Dinner Rules

Eat with a fork

Sit up at table (no slouching, hiding under, jumping about etc)

Don’t put too much food in your mouth (you could choke and it looks nasty)

Don’t say rude things about the food being served  (e.g ‘yuk, I’m not eating that’ it could hurt people’s feelings)

Eat/ chew with your mouth closed

Eat slowly not gobble it all up

Use a napkin (not your tongue or sleeve)

Say please & thank you.

Handy Back To School Tips For Mum’s

Handy Back To School Tips For Mum’s


Here’s a handy checklist for you Mum’s of the things you are likely to need  – and some extra tips to make life easier. Whether you’re packing your child off to school for the first time or have been through the beginning of term many times I  hope these tips take away some of the stress!

Having got all the equipment, you might then need to think about the food you need if your children take a packed lunch to school.

Uniform checklist

  • 4 shirts or polo shirts
  • Boys – 2 pairs of trousers, 1 pair shorts
  • Belt if needed
  • Girls – 2 pinafores / skirts and 1 pair trousers
  • Jumpers – 1 with a logo on and 1 plain for spare (if children are young, you might want an extra one)
  • Shoes
  • Socks
  • Lightweight waterproof coat (foldable)
  • Coat
  • Summer hat
  • Woolly hat and gloves

For some schools you might also need…

  • Tie
  • Blazer
  • Fleece
  • Dinner tabard
  • Painting tabard

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PE checklist

  • Gym bag
  • Plimsolls
  • Shorts
  • T-shirt (check your uniform guide for colours)
  • Pair of socks (especially for girls who might be wearing tights that day)
  • Swimming kit or other sports kit (in some schools)

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Extras checklist

  • Name labels
  • Book bag (usually sold by the school)
  • Lunch box or bag
  • Small water bottle for lunch
  • Water bottle for daytime (schools may provide this and some might not use them yet)
  • Pencil case with pencil, pen (school might specify the type), coloured crayons, ruler, pencil sharpener, rubber
  • Music bag / musical instruments eg recorder, violin
  • Rucksack to carry it all in!

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Handy Tips

Easy-iron trousers and shirts work well, so they save on the amount of ironing each weekend!

Many schools allow children to wear polo shirts. If your child needs to wear a proper shirt, the short sleeved ones can be easier for little children to get on and off.

If you have a choice of white or coloured polo shirts, and are not too fanatical about washing, the coloured ones look cleaner for longer!

Younger boys sometimes like to wear shorts (if the weather is still warm enough). If you can’t find any to buy, you could cut down an outgrown pair of trousers and hem them.

For younger girls, on winter days when they have PE, giving them trousers to wear avoids the problem of them trying to put their tights on without assistance!

Find out if your school runs a ‘swap shop’ or second hand sales – a great way to pick up cheaper clothing.

If you want to use proper name labels, it’s worth ordering them early on.

If you can’t be bothered with sewing, or find that iron-on ones are temperamental, then just use a marker pen on the inside of the clothing. Biro will usually work for a while but tends to wash out. Laundry markers or even CD markers work well.