Job Identity, Who Will I Be Today? (The Chameleon Effect, BPD)

Job Identity, Who Will I Be Today? (The Chameleon Effect, BPD)

At 25 years old, I have been a market trader selling several different products, designed clothes, owned and ran a cleaning business, been a personal assistant, worked in a chip shop, worked for a company selling mortgages, sold wholesale jewellery,, sold lingerie, became a life coach, became a professional organiser, attended many courses covering a diverse range of subjects, I have even been runner up in a national competition that thousands across Britain entered, I won trading space, membership to the NMTF and I was invited to the houses of parliament.. I set that business up in 2 weeks after I heard about the competition, I thought ‘I could do this’ …and I did.

I have written business plans for all kinds of new businesses that I intended to start, I have made websites (lots of them) for different businesses I also intended to start. I have done charity work, researched other people’s businesses and taught myself everything I needed to know in order to help them in theirs. I have even started up businesses for other people and helped them get thousands in funding for their start up’s.

And here I am, still searching for what I want… stability, for what most of my friends have; they know their career path, they have walked it for years and specialise in one subject, rather than like myself.  ‘I’m a ‘jack of all trades, master of none’

I suppose I am grateful to be wiser from the things I have learnt and I am able to use my skills in my life to help myself and others. It’s also a great skill to be able to adapt to any situation, or be able to become anyone I need to be in order to fit in with my surroundings and  achieve what I want…  Its exciting!  But it’s also very frustrating,
I left school early due to not being able to complete it, even though I was more than capable of achieving good grades.

It’s 10 years later now, and I’m still no closer to know where I am, what I want to do with my career, I get bored easily, I like the idea of starting over too much, I change my mind depending on who is in my life at that time, what careers they have and even when I read a good book I see how fantastic their life & jobs are and find myself researching their line of work, convinced this is what I should be doing!

This is all down to what we call ‘The Chameleon effect’  “One of the biggest and most challenging aspects of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is often ‘The Chameleon Effect’ – or ‘mirroring’. This is the constant, unconscious change in the person’s ‘self’, as they struggle to fit in with their environment, or the people around them. It is, essentially, a fluctuating identity. It is the manifestation of a basic inability or difficulty in establishing a stable sense of self.”

I have spoken about The indecisive mind of a Borderline in a previous post, I have also  shared some of my research and business ideas in the Boost Your Income category on this blog.

Although its taking forever to find my way, I know I will get there eventually and by being adaptable I will learn a wide range of skills and be able to use them to my advantage in the future.

When it comes to my career path, I believe in myself,in my skills and abilities, I am passionate about business and have every faith I will be successful when the time is right.  I believe everything happens for a reason, and when things go wrong it’s because I am being directed to something better.

 

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How To Make Sweet Trees

How To Make Sweet Trees

How to make Sweet Trees

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What you need

  •   Polystyrene balls
  •   Cellophane
  •   Wooden dowels
  •   A pot for each tree which you can decorate to tie in with your theme or colour scheme
  •   A glue gun
  •   Curling ribbon and bows
  •   A bag of plaster of Paris
  •   Tissue/Crepe Paper (colours to match the sweets)
  •   Cocktail Sticks

 

What to do

  • Cover the ball with a couple of sheets of tissue/crepe paper to match the style of sweets.

 

  • Decorate your dowel if necessary with crepe paper, ribbon or you can paint it the desired colour

 

  • Centre the end of the wooden dowel at one end of the ball. Push the dowel into the ball firmly. Do not push it all the way through, however push it far enough so that the weight of the sweets on the ball later will not cause it to fall off the dowel. You can also put some craft glue on the end of the dowel to ensure it stays in the polystyrene ball.

 

  • Make up the bag of plaster of Paris according to instructions. Fill up your pots to 3/4 full and leave to set for a couple of minutes, centre the other end of the dowel into the plaster and hold for a minute until it sets. This is the skeleton of your tree. Once the plaster sets you can cover it with either some moss or some crushed cellophane or material or crepe paper.

 

  • Add your sweets of choice by either sticking a toothpick into your sweet and then into your tree or by just using glue to hold them on if you are using a glue gun be careful as they get hot and you don’t want to burn yourself or, if you’re using chocolate, melt it! Fill in any gaps with or crushed crepe paper and tie on your pretty bow.

 

  • You could also use strawberries and other fruit which have to be attached with toothpicks but are really nice and different, you could make variations on these by first of all dipping them in chocolate or white chocolate and or dipping them in sprinkles.

 

Example Pricing: UK  (these prices vary depending on where you get them from and sizes, quantity etc)

5 Large Polystyrene balls                       £6.99    Dougarts – Ebay
(120mm/120cm)

5 Medium Polystyrene balls                   £4.99    Scotsman2777- Ebay
(100mm/100cm)

10 Small Polystyrene balls                     £8.49    Scotsman2777 – Ebay
(90mm/90cm)

 

8 12mm x 30cm Dowel (Large Tree)        £3.50 & £2.25 Darbysdiy- Ebay

8  9mm x 30 cm Dowel (Medium Tree)    £2.65 & 50p

12 6mm x 20 cm Dowel (Small Tree)       £2.65 & 50p

Postage discount is if bought together

 

Plaster Of Paris 500g                            £2.75 mister-crafts- Ebay

Cellophane 20 metres                            £5.65    j333young
Plus 20 metres of ribbon

 

Approx amounts of sweets on each tree:

Flying Saucers-

Small-   45

Med-     100

Large-   145

Lollies

Med- 130

Large- 160

Fererro Rocher

Med- 45

Large- 65

Love Hearts

Med- 64 tubes

Haribo

Med –  400g

Chocolate Eclair

Med – 75

Large – 120

Marshmallow

Med- 100

Medium sized Toffees

Med- 70

Choc Football

Med- 600g

Until Next Time
xoxox

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Run Your Own Cleaning Service- Templates and guides

If you’re considering setting up a new business, a cleaning service could be the opportunity you have been waiting for.

 You don’t have to spend a fortune to get started in this lucrative business. You can start now with little cash and no experience.

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After running a successful business for a number of years I decided it was time to move on and I sold it on,I loved it but don’t get me wrong,  it was hard work and there are a lot of competitors out there, but that shouldn’t stop you.

You can run this business on your own or have people who carry out the cleaning  on your behalf and you act as an agency.

It’s easy to start-up and can be operated from home with few overheads! it’s not a get rich quick scheme, it requires hard work and persistence (take it from someone who knows!)

Do your research and use some of the templates below to get started!

I suggest you use the guides to get a better idea of the business, then add all the details you need to make them your own and visit a business start-up adviser, or contact your local Jobcentre and they will give you a nudge in the right direction and you may be eligible for business start-up grants/ loans.

Cleaner Agreement

Cleaner Inquiry Form

 Cleaner registration

Cleaners Good Conduct Guide

CLEANING AGENCY AGREEMENT

Interview Check List

Quote form

Standing Order Form

Standing order Agency/ Agreement Letter

Welcome Letter

What to expect from your Domestic Assistant

DISCLAIMER: These are templates and guides I have used myself and produced through research and collecting information from various sources over time.

Please be aware that information provided by this blog is subject to change. We recommend that you do not take any information held within as a definitive guide to the law or the relevant matter being discussed. You are advised to seek legal or professional advice where necessary rather than relying on the content supplied by the author of this blog.

Due to the nature of the matters discussed on this blog, the information contained within it and any pages linked to from it are clearly subject to change, without warning. The law, regulations and other forms of legal governance are constantly changing and adapting to meet the needs of the modern world and it is impossible to comprehensively detail the nature of such within the confines of a blog in a concise, up-to-date manner.

You will find links to guidance on what you need to do for tax and National Insurance purposes when you start-up a business as a self-employed person, a partnership or a limited company at http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/startingup/index.htm , You will also find links to additional help and support HM Revenue & Customs (HMRC) offer new businesses

 

Start Your Own Window Cleaning Business- Ideas, Guides And Plans

Start Your Own Window Cleaning Business- Ideas, Guides And Plans

If your considering setting up a new business, a Window Cleaning service could be the opportunity you have been waiting for.

 You don’t have to spend a fortune to get started in this lucrative business. You can start now with little cash and no experience.

Here are some guides  & templates to download that may help you set up a new business in Window cleaning! they include a rough idea of the services, a few tips and sample contracts you could use if you would be hiring.
The contracts will also give you and idea of terms and conditions of the business and its a good head start if you were thinking of setting up as a window cleaner!

I suggest you use the guides to get a better idea of the business, then add all the details you need to make them your own and visit a business start up adviser, or contact your local Jobcentre and they will give you a nudge in the right direction and you may be eligible for business start up grants/ loans.

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Click on the guides below to download.

Equipment Needed

How To Clean a Window

Window Cleaning Agency Agreement

Window Cleaning Good Conduct Guide

Window Cleaning, Getting Customers

DISCLAIMER: These are templates and guides I have used myself and produced through research and collecting information from various sources over time.

Please be aware that information provided by this blog is subject to change. We recommend that you do not take any information held within as a definitive guide to the law or the relevant matter being discussed. You are advised to seek legal or professional advice where necessary rather than relying on the content supplied by the author of this blog.

Due to the nature of the matters discussed on this blog, the information contained within it and any pages linked to from it are clearly subject to change, without warning. The law, regulations and other forms of legal governance are constantly changing and adapting to meet the needs of the modern world and it is impossible to comprehensively detail the nature of such within the confines of a blog in a concise, up-to-date manner.

You will find links to guidance on what you need to do for tax and National Insurance purposes when you start up a business as a self-employed person, a partnership or a limited company at http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/startingup/index.htm , You will also find links to additional help and support HM Revenue & Customs (HMRC) offer new businesses

Start your Own Business, Ideas And Templates, Boost Your Income WIth No Experience And Little Cash

Start your Own Business, Ideas And Templates, Boost Your Income WIth No Experience And Little Cash

Since I was in Secondary School I always knew I would be self-employed, I just didn’t realise how much passion I would have about business. I have my ups and downs but have been pleased with what I have achieved so far against all odds, I didn’t finish school, left with no GCSE’s have had no higher education since apart from a Life Coaching Course which I decided not to take further.

But we all have to make a living somehow and I want to share a few easy ways to boost your income!

In the past I have tried a few different businesses including market trading, selling different items and even winning free trading space, NMTF membership & invited to parties at the houses of parliament through being shortlisted from thousands in a national competition! I also owned a very successful Domestic Cleaning Business which I recently sold on because I felt the time was right and I was ready to embark on an exciting new venture!

Throughout the years I have had many ideas, and done a lot of research and planning mainly because of my interest in how businesses work but I have also helped friends and family members set the wheels in motion for their new businesses. I’m a bit of a of a jack of all trades some might say.

So over the next few weeks I have decided to share a couple of ideas, the research I have done and kept and templates to help people set up their own business and get on the right track.

If you’re considering setting up a new business, this could be the opportunity you have been waiting for so watch this space!

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DISCLAIMER: The details , ideas and templates I share are the ones I have used myself and produced through research and collecting information from various sources over time.

Please be aware that information provided by this blog is subject to change. We recommend that you do not take any information held within as a definitive guide to the law or the relevant matter being discussed. You are advised to seek legal or professional advice where necessary rather than relying on the content supplied by the author of this blog.

Due to the nature of the matters discussed on this blog, the information contained within it and any pages linked to from it are clearly subject to change, without warning. The law, regulations and other forms of legal governance are constantly changing and adapting to meet the needs of the modern world and it is impossible to comprehensively detail the nature of such within the confines of a blog in a concise, up-to-date manner.

You will find links to guidance on what you need to do for tax and National Insurance purposes when you start-up a business as a self-employed person, a partnership or a limited company at http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/startingup/index.htm , You will also find links to additional help and support HM Revenue & Customs (HMRC) offer new businesses