Dealing With The Disney Channel Attitude- Turning Negative Attitudes And Behaviors Into Positive

Dealing With The Disney Channel Attitude- Turning Negative Attitudes And Behaviors Into Positive

In the past few months, some attitude has arrived in my home that is very unwelcomed!

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So I’ve thought about what I’m doing right – my 7 year old daughter is well fed, well clothed, hugged and kissed, has a good stable family unit, routine, house rules and boundaries are in place, she gets rewarded and praised for good behavior, I always have a listening ear, she understands she needs to help out to get her pocket-money and gets plenty of toys and sweets!

I have been racking my brains thing where I have gone wrong, where the attitude she has picked up comes from and how she has been taught this stinking attitude; this includes being cheeky, back-chatting, storming about  & sometimes even disrespect and lack of gratitude.

 I started paying attention to our habits and routines and noticed a lot of the shows my daughter watches. Particularly the shows on Disney Channel including;  ‘Jessie’ ‘Hannah Montana’ ‘Good Luck Charlie’ ‘Suite life of Jack & Cody’

For those of you who have limited to no knowledge of these shows, they are filled with the most self-absorbed teenage characters ever who are constantly dealing with  dramas and relationship problems…issues inappropriate for children of their age. They are  built on smug overacting characters and a constant stream of witty, sarcastic one liners. 

 Most of the characters on these shows get anything and everything they want, have no respect for their siblings or parents, use and disrespect their friends, constantly cheat and scam others, and are (most of the time, if not always) very shallow.

Thus came the first decision to solve my dilemma;
Disney Channel is Banned from our home!

I sat my daughter down to explain why she couldn’t watch the channel anymore.  She wasn’t happy  about it, but I explained the behaviors in these programme’s aren’t real and aren’t the way she is supposed to act.

I explained the affect it has on her life if she mirrors the behaviors and attitudes of these characters, for example: If she back-chats or disrespects me with a witty comment- my feelings get hurt – She gets into trouble- she gets punished and loses  privileges.
So because we want to have a happy house, we need to learn to not copy these type of behaviors whether they are on the TV or at school etc.

Another issue I feel I needed to address is negative attitude:

“. . . nobody likes me . . . nothing good ever happens to me . . . it will never work.”

Parents should encourage & provide good, strong examples of self-confidence:

Enjoy life.
Believe in yourself and what you can accomplish.
Compliment yourself and others.
Don’t be afraid to make a mistake — point to it as a natural learning experience.
When you feel angry or sad, don’t keep those feelings very long.

I went through each of the above with her and gave her examples of being positive and the affect positivity has on your life.

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I decided an activity would be the best way to address some of these issues, as talking to much often results in going in one ear, out of the other.

I gave her a  piece of paper and a pen and asked her the following questions, one at a time.

  • Write down the name of someone you think typically has a good attitude. Why do they or what about them makes you think that?
  • Write down the name of someone you think typically has a bad attitude. How do you know they have a bad attitude?
  • When you think of the person with a bad attitude, what things (or who) does that person usually blame  as the reason they are in a bad mood?
  • Do you have to have a bad attitude if things aren’t going your way or do you think it’s possible to have a good attitude even when bad stuff is happening? Tell me why.
  • Are there things in your life you’d like to change to help you have a more positive attitude?
  • If negative stuff is happening to you, are there things you can do to keep  positive & happy? Name a few of them.

Whilst answering these questions, it makes a child look at how they react to things, can make a big difference in her attitude and the way she feels.

I then gave her another piece of paper asked her to write these columns:
School, Family, Home, Myself

I then asked her to think about any problems she is having in any of these areas. Once she has an idea, she should list it in the correct column (For example, “My sister keeps teasing me.” or “I hate doing maths” or “I don’t like getting my hair done”)

Once she has the problems that affect her attitude listed, we went through each one individually and asked her:

  • How do I feel about this?
  • Is there a way I can solve this problem?
  • Have I been blaming other people for this problem?
  • What will happen in the short-term if I don’t solve this problem? What about the long-term?
  • What little things can I do to work toward solving this problem?
  • How do I have to change my attitude to solve the problem?
  • What will happen once this problem is resolved?

We used coloured paper & bright pens to make this exercise more fun and after, we took some time  to reflect on these issues.
I gave my daughter lots of praise for co-operating and making an effort to change the attitude that keeps getting her into trouble and preventing her from a positive happy life.

Now, I know It’s not always easy to see the positive things in life, especially for kids, but having a positive attitude and outlook on life makes solving life’s problems much easier. Teaching her how to turn a negative attitude around will hopefully help teach her some important coping skills she’ll need in her life….and will hopefully bring some peace to our home!

Talk PANTS And Help Keep Your Child Safe From Abuse – The Underwear Rule

Talk PANTS And Help Keep Your Child Safe From Abuse – The Underwear Rule

Driving home over the busy Tyne Bridge this week I heard an advert on the radio that immediately got my attention, it was a campaign advert from the NSPCC regarding ‘The Underwear Rule’,  it’s a campaign designed to show parents a fun way to make their children aware of the dangers of sexual abuse without scaring them.

I have previously blogged about the importance of ‘Stranger Danger’ which is an important conversation every parent should have with their children, but sadly it’s not enough to keep our children safe, most abuse is closer to home.

It’s every parents’ worst nightmare to find their child has been touched inappropriately and no family wants to think it will ever happen to them.  But as the statistics show it does happen to one in 20 kids, and nine times out of ten by someone known to the child.

If we are to tackle this issue we must prevent it before it even starts, to do this we must educate our children about staying safe and speaking out.

The Underwear Rule is a simple way that parents can help keep children safe from abuse.

We know talking to your child about private parts can seem difficult, but you can have simple conversations about keeping safe without using scary words or mentioning sex.

NSPCC have developed PANTS as an easy way to teach children that their body belongs to them and to talk to a trusted adult if they ever feel scared or upset.

They’ve also created a child-friendly guide and other useful advice that can make talking to your child easier.

Learn the Underwear Rule and you’ve got it covered

PANTS is an easy way for you to explain to your child the key elements of the Underwear Rule:

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Privates are private

Be clear with your child that parts of their body covered by underwear are private. No one should ask your child to touch or look at parts of their body covered by underwear.

If anyone tries to touch their private parts, tell your child to say “no” and to tell an adult they trust about what has happened.

In some situations, people – family members at bathtime, or doctors and nurses – may need to touch your child’s private parts.

Explain that this is OK, but that those people should always explain why, and ask your child if it’s OK first.

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Always remember your body belongs to you

Let your child know their body belongs to them, and no one else.

It can be helpful to talk about the difference between good touch and bad touch:

Good touch is helpful or comforting like a hug from someone you love.

Bad touch is being touched in a way that that makes you feel uncomfortable.

No one has the right to make them do anything with their body that makes them feel uncomfortable. And if anyone tries, tell your child they have the right to say no.

This can be a good time to remind your child that they can always talk to you about anything which worries or upsets them.

N- No means no

Make sure your child understands that they have the right to say “no” to unwanted touch – even to a family member or someone they know or love.

This shows that they’re in control of their body and their feelings should be respected.

If a child feels confident to say no to their own family, they are more likely to say no to others.

T- Talk about secrets that upset you

Your child needs to feel able to speak up about a secret that’s worrying them and confident that saying something won’t get them into trouble.

To help them feel clear and comfortable about what to share and when, explain the difference between ‘good’ and ‘bad’ secrets.

Bad secrets:

  • make you feel worried, uneasy, sad or frightened
  • may be asked to be kept in exchange for something
  • bad secrets often have no end time.

Good secrets:

  • can be nice things like surprise parties or presents for someone else
  • will usually be shared in the end

It’s important that your child knows the difference because ‘secrets’ are often an abusers greatest weapon in stopping a child from telling anybody about abuse.

Phrases like “it’s our little secret” are their way of making a child feel worried, or scared to tell someone what is happening to them.

S- Speak up, someone can help

Tell your child that if they ever feel sad, anxious or frightened they should talk to an adult they trust.

A trusted adult doesn’t have to be a family member. It can also be:

  • a teacher
  • a grandparent, uncle or aunty
  • a friend’s parent, or
  • ChildLine

Whoever they feel most comfortable talking to, reassure your child this adult will listen, and can help stop whatever is making them upset.

The more your child is aware of all the people they can turn to, the more likely they are to tell someone as

soon as they have a worry.

Remind your child that whatever the problem, it’s not their fault and they will never get into trouble for speaking up.

NSPCC – Tips & techniques for talking

After school

If your child has learned about relationships or personal safety, ask what they remember – it will give you a starting point from which to begin more detailed conversations.

Talking over the TV

TV can be a great way of opening up tricky topics. Though we might sometimes wish our children hadn’t heard something in the news or on a soap, it’s best to address the point head on rather than dismiss it, or pretend it hasn’t happened.

The bedtime routine

When you’re getting your child ready for bed – or helping them tie their shoelaces or get dressed – you could talk about times when a trusted adult might need to touch them.

Driving it home

Car journeys are a great time to talk to your child. They’re in a comfortable setting, with limited distractions. If you’re on your way to school, you could ask about who they would tell at school if something was upsetting them.

Question time

Don’t shy away from your child’s difficult questions. Reward their curiosity by speaking to your child honestly. Talking frankly will make the subject less shocking, and you’ll show yourself to be someone they can confide in.

The PANTS rule for Kids
The PANTS rule for Kids

For more information cclick here to visit the NCPSS’s Page and download some friendly guides for you and your children.

Effortless But Stunning Hairstyles You Can Achieve While You’re Sleeping (Literally!)

Effortless But Stunning Hairstyles You Can Achieve While You’re Sleeping (Literally!)

This is my latest obsession, hairstyles for the lazy girl like me 😉
Mornings are a bit hectic in my house so these fab tutorials are a lifesaver.

Only 5-10 minutes preparation needed, no heat, no fuss, sleep, wake up VOILA! Stunning effortless hair…Enjoy!

Beach Waves  Hair.

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Wash your hair before bed.

Let your hair dry until it is slightly damp, not too wet!

If you have dry, thin or frizzy hair, rub a little argon type oil into your hair.

Twist your hair and make a bun on the top of your head (really high) tie with an elastic.

Wait for your hair to dry completely overnight and then gently take off the hair elastic and unravel the curls.

You can make more than one bun for a tighter more dramatic wave effect!

Super Curly Hair

Cut an old sock into  strips (or any other old T-shirt etc)

Then wrap sections of your half-dried hair into them by placing the end of each section on the center of the strip and rolling up.

Once you’re done, just tie the ends of the strip together and move to the next section.

And remember, the smaller your sections are, the tighter your wild curly hair will be.

No Crimpers Crimped Hair

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Wash your hair an hour before you go to bed

Towel dry the hair

Braid it into a lot of thin, tight braids.

Leave the braids overnight.

Undo them in the morning, style your hair and there you have it! No crimpers crimped hair!

Twisty Beautiful Curls

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Wash hair & towel dry.

Take tiny sections of hair.

Apply a generous amount of the styling product of your choice.

Then twist each section until it starts to coil around its base.

Secure these little knots with hair elastics.

Let loose after a few hours or the next day  and you’re instantly rocking some sexy, twisty hair.

xoxo

How To Make Sweet Trees

How To Make Sweet Trees

How to make Sweet Trees

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What you need

  •   Polystyrene balls
  •   Cellophane
  •   Wooden dowels
  •   A pot for each tree which you can decorate to tie in with your theme or colour scheme
  •   A glue gun
  •   Curling ribbon and bows
  •   A bag of plaster of Paris
  •   Tissue/Crepe Paper (colours to match the sweets)
  •   Cocktail Sticks

 

What to do

  • Cover the ball with a couple of sheets of tissue/crepe paper to match the style of sweets.

 

  • Decorate your dowel if necessary with crepe paper, ribbon or you can paint it the desired colour

 

  • Centre the end of the wooden dowel at one end of the ball. Push the dowel into the ball firmly. Do not push it all the way through, however push it far enough so that the weight of the sweets on the ball later will not cause it to fall off the dowel. You can also put some craft glue on the end of the dowel to ensure it stays in the polystyrene ball.

 

  • Make up the bag of plaster of Paris according to instructions. Fill up your pots to 3/4 full and leave to set for a couple of minutes, centre the other end of the dowel into the plaster and hold for a minute until it sets. This is the skeleton of your tree. Once the plaster sets you can cover it with either some moss or some crushed cellophane or material or crepe paper.

 

  • Add your sweets of choice by either sticking a toothpick into your sweet and then into your tree or by just using glue to hold them on if you are using a glue gun be careful as they get hot and you don’t want to burn yourself or, if you’re using chocolate, melt it! Fill in any gaps with or crushed crepe paper and tie on your pretty bow.

 

  • You could also use strawberries and other fruit which have to be attached with toothpicks but are really nice and different, you could make variations on these by first of all dipping them in chocolate or white chocolate and or dipping them in sprinkles.

 

Example Pricing: UK  (these prices vary depending on where you get them from and sizes, quantity etc)

5 Large Polystyrene balls                       £6.99    Dougarts – Ebay
(120mm/120cm)

5 Medium Polystyrene balls                   £4.99    Scotsman2777- Ebay
(100mm/100cm)

10 Small Polystyrene balls                     £8.49    Scotsman2777 – Ebay
(90mm/90cm)

 

8 12mm x 30cm Dowel (Large Tree)        £3.50 & £2.25 Darbysdiy- Ebay

8  9mm x 30 cm Dowel (Medium Tree)    £2.65 & 50p

12 6mm x 20 cm Dowel (Small Tree)       £2.65 & 50p

Postage discount is if bought together

 

Plaster Of Paris 500g                            £2.75 mister-crafts- Ebay

Cellophane 20 metres                            £5.65    j333young
Plus 20 metres of ribbon

 

Approx amounts of sweets on each tree:

Flying Saucers-

Small-   45

Med-     100

Large-   145

Lollies

Med- 130

Large- 160

Fererro Rocher

Med- 45

Large- 65

Love Hearts

Med- 64 tubes

Haribo

Med –  400g

Chocolate Eclair

Med – 75

Large – 120

Marshmallow

Med- 100

Medium sized Toffees

Med- 70

Choc Football

Med- 600g

Until Next Time
xoxox

Tips For Work From Home Mums

Tips For Work From Home Mums

Work from home mum’s

Many mum’s who work from home struggle with a lack of self-organisation.

 If you required help getting your life and time organised in order to be more productive, you can apply some of these hints and tips to improve your life and your income.

Do you feel that you are living in a chaos life? Do you feel that your time is not spent working effectively?

Organization Tips for Work from Home Mums:

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Ÿ         Scheduling time for work.

Ÿ          If you are inconsistent with the time you put in to your work you will have very poor results. Increase your consistency and watch your profits climb. Make sure to schedule regular time for work.

Ÿ         Scheduling time for household management.

When your surroundings are not organized and there is always something calling for your attention before you can settle down to work, work will keep being put off for another time.

 Create a household maintenance schedule and be diligent in working your plan. Find peace as your home and work surroundings become more and more organised.

Ÿ         Scheduling time for relationships.

If all you ever do is work on your household chores or your business you will soon lose the satisfaction and the benefits of working from home – having time for family relationships. Keep your priorities in order and schedule adequate time to build relationships. Then you will not be interrupted with guilt when it is time to concentrate on business.

Ÿ         Keep your work space organised.

Be vigilant about keeping your immediate surroundings in order. This order generates calm, productivity and creativity; three very valuable tools for success.

Take some time daily to maintain order where you work.  Create a Inbox, Outbox & Pending file, file correctly when completed.
Create separate files for each aspect of your business. Keep Client, Customers & Employee’s details in files, along with all customer correspondence.

Ÿ         Keep your output organised.

Organise your working time. Work on the items of most importance first. Do not let the urgent steal your valuable work time.

Use Our Periodic activity work sheet to help keep up with the frequency of priority tasks and to keep book-keeping up to date.

Ÿ         Maintain your hard work.

Now that you’ve put all this effort into organising your surroundings, your work, your relationships and your productivity guard your efforts ruthlessly.

Do not let this calm slip away into chaos again.
Learn to keep your life organized. 

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Run Your Own Cleaning Service- Templates and guides

If you’re considering setting up a new business, a cleaning service could be the opportunity you have been waiting for.

 You don’t have to spend a fortune to get started in this lucrative business. You can start now with little cash and no experience.

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After running a successful business for a number of years I decided it was time to move on and I sold it on,I loved it but don’t get me wrong,  it was hard work and there are a lot of competitors out there, but that shouldn’t stop you.

You can run this business on your own or have people who carry out the cleaning  on your behalf and you act as an agency.

It’s easy to start-up and can be operated from home with few overheads! it’s not a get rich quick scheme, it requires hard work and persistence (take it from someone who knows!)

Do your research and use some of the templates below to get started!

I suggest you use the guides to get a better idea of the business, then add all the details you need to make them your own and visit a business start-up adviser, or contact your local Jobcentre and they will give you a nudge in the right direction and you may be eligible for business start-up grants/ loans.

Cleaner Agreement

Cleaner Inquiry Form

 Cleaner registration

Cleaners Good Conduct Guide

CLEANING AGENCY AGREEMENT

Interview Check List

Quote form

Standing Order Form

Standing order Agency/ Agreement Letter

Welcome Letter

What to expect from your Domestic Assistant

DISCLAIMER: These are templates and guides I have used myself and produced through research and collecting information from various sources over time.

Please be aware that information provided by this blog is subject to change. We recommend that you do not take any information held within as a definitive guide to the law or the relevant matter being discussed. You are advised to seek legal or professional advice where necessary rather than relying on the content supplied by the author of this blog.

Due to the nature of the matters discussed on this blog, the information contained within it and any pages linked to from it are clearly subject to change, without warning. The law, regulations and other forms of legal governance are constantly changing and adapting to meet the needs of the modern world and it is impossible to comprehensively detail the nature of such within the confines of a blog in a concise, up-to-date manner.

You will find links to guidance on what you need to do for tax and National Insurance purposes when you start-up a business as a self-employed person, a partnership or a limited company at http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/startingup/index.htm , You will also find links to additional help and support HM Revenue & Customs (HMRC) offer new businesses

 

Car Boot Sale Tips- A Fun Way To Make Money!

Car Boot Sale Tips- A Fun Way To Make Money!

Car boot sales are a fun way to make cash! Don’t expect to make a fortune because it’s where everybody goes for a bargain: 50p-£1 is common for things like videos, books, clothes, toys and garden pots; maybe £3-£5 for small kitchen appliances.

Be prepared to get up extremely early and for a good deal of loading and unloading. We take a folding pasting table, folding chairs, sheets of plastic to spread on the ground (good for displaying clothes), warm jackets, sun hats, an umbrella, food, flask, a float with change and a book or newspaper to keep you occupied when it gets quiet.

It’s great fun if you enjoy the hustle and bustle of markets and you can shop while you’re there.  I think they’re great!

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Tips for your Car Boot Sale

1. Put price stickers on  all of your goods.

2. Find your Local Car Boot Sale, ask for the price of stall, Date and time you should arrive.

3. Pack items in smaller cardboard boxes – they are easier to move in and out of the car.

4. Take a table for your goods, such as a paste table

5. Arrive early – ring the organisers to ask what time they suggest.

6. On arrival, unload your table and one box then lock your car while you unpack the box, otherwise people will swarm all over your car, picking up items and confusing you totally.

 7. Dealers come early to make offers. Don’t take them unless you are happy with the price; better to tell them to try again later as you’ve only just started selling.

8. Take lots of change and a container with a lid for money taken. Once you have a few notes, lock these in your car.

9. Take a chair, wet wipes, carrier bags for buyers, sandwiches and a drink.

10. Best of all, persuade a friend to share the stall as this halves the cost and ensures you get a toilet break!