A lot can happen in a year….

A lot can happen in a year….

New year, is an opportunity to reflect on your past 12 months and set some goals for the next, which can only be a positive thing!

2016 has been a life changing one for me. I’m stronger in every way and have accomplished so much and of course it didn’t without its BPD and GAD drama 💪I’ve been working hard with my therapy and psychology, my wounds are healing and regardless of the chaos I’m in a the best place I can be. I feel safe, comfortable and I’m nowhere near the end of my recovery, but I’ll keep working through it.

One of the most important things was I wanted to share something that I still can’t quite believe myself…..

Sometimes I remember my past, the historical abuse, the domestic violence, the mental health torture and instead of being crippled by them I think… Oh My God, I haven’t thought about that for days! Those awful thoughts haven’t even crossed my mind for longer than a day.

It may seem like a small thing, but it’s my biggest personal achievement this year I even went longer than a week without feeling that horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach.  I think I have found some closure after 28 years of hell. I’m beginning to see my strengths and use them to help me through the tough times, hearing my own voice and not depended on people as much as I thought I needed to.

I’m definitely not the same person I was at the start of this year. I’m devoting the next year to loving myself more, trying not to give in to my self-doubt, travelling more and exploring, appreciating the amazing man in my life and focusing on my little girl growing up `👸

Happy New Year from Bridget Of The North

How To Prevent Naysayers Ruining Your Dreams; (Negative / Un-supportive People & How To Deal With Them)

How To Prevent Naysayers Ruining Your Dreams; (Negative / Un-supportive People & How To Deal With Them)

I have been speaking to my Psychologist today and we got onto the fact that I am good at helping others in the same situation as me, yet I find it difficult to help myself. We spoke about all the things I have done in the past and I realised that my blog was something that was always useful and helped me to understand how I’m feeling.

I had forgotten all the work I had previously done and the things I have wrote about, I decided to take a look back on what my solutions were in the pas, because when I think about it, I am just dealing with the same feelings time and time again but just in a different situations and I need to draw on my past experiences and actions to help myself. I need to practise what I preach!

My aim this week is to care about myself how I would care for others. I already have the answers, I just need to believe in myself and remind myself I do know what to do. I always need a solution you see, I’m a problem solver so If I have an issue the anxiety will take over until I have worked out how to act to solve it.

The first post I have come across on my recap of the things I have learnt and coping strategies I have previously used is this one, It takes about toxic people and naysayers, which are a real trigger to me and we have spent hours talking about this in my appointments and how certain people affect my life and my intense mood swings so often and how I allow it. I am trying to let go of these people, and learn how to better deal with them.

In my case, it comes down to people close to me, so I just need to look at them differently, change the way I see our relationships and each of our our parts in it. I need to believe in myself more, and remind myself that others are not always right, I’m a strong, independent 28 year old woman, I know my personality and emotions better than anyone. I can make my own decisions based on my life goals and how I want to live it and I no longer need anyone’s approval, I especially need to let go of those that have a negative impact on my life and my mood.

This was a great read and has put things in some perspective for me tonight…

I stumbled across this fantastic blog post whilst looking into the effects that negative people can have in your life, I am going through one hell of a roller coaster at the minute and the time has come to leave behind negative people and ignore negative  comments in order to carry on reaching for my dreams that had been forgotten and put aside whilst  I was on a downward spiral and close to losing myself and being led down the same path as my ‘friends’. There’s a favourite quote of mine its ‘Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self esteem, just be sure you are not just, in fact, surrounded by assholes’ This post talks about those people and how to deal with them. I hope it helps you as much as it did me.

‘Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, just…

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