10 tell-tale signs you need to lose weight

The girl at the donut shop knows your breakfast order by heart, you can’t remember the last time you saw the inside of the gym, and for the first time ever, your cat seeing you naked after you shower freaks you out.

These, among many other things, are perhaps some signs you need to lose weight. Hey, it’s marvelous to be a curvy girl, but you have to be healthy, right?  Here are 10 telling signs you need to lose weight


The last time you tried to squeeze into your favorite jeans, you almost fainted, and has your roommate shrunk your bathing suit? If your clothes don’t fit, it might be a sign you need to lose weight… or maybe your roommate is just playing a prank…


Mum’s are fantastically tactful and loving people, so if your mother gently broaches the issue of your weight with you, especially in regards to your health, chances are, she has a point. Give her a patient ear, and listen without being offended. She may be telling you a difficult truth — you need to lose weight.


If you’re constantly feeling sluggish and tired, it may be another sign you need to lose weight, especially if you’ve never had energy issues before. Of course, there are many other causes for a sudden drop in your lust for life (like depression), so this is also a tipoff to see your doctor.


… and speaking of your doctor, if he or she mentions your weight as a health issue, it’s definitely a sign you need to lose weight, seriously! Being overweight can lead to serious chronic and even deadly health issues, like sleep apnea, diabetes, heart disease, and more. If your doctor feels you’re at risk for any of these, listen to her, and ask for her help in putting together a weight loss plan just for you.


If you’re not feeling good about how you look, it’s another sign you need to lose weight. You might be your own worst critic, but sometimes, you have to trust your instinct and listen to your inner voice.


Your Body Mass Index number is another sign you need to lose weight, or even gain weight. The BBC website has an excellent free BMI calculator that takes into account your height, weight, age, and more, to tell you what your number is, and what it means.


I don’t normally suggest using a scale to gauge your weight (it can be a little deceiving), but it’s another tool in your kit of figuring out whether you need to lose weight. If you’re not sure whether or not you need to lose weight, a step on the scale may add a little more illumination.


Most adult women need to consume about 2,000 to 2,500 calories per day to keep at a healthy weight. If you have no idea what you eat, or how many calories your diet provides you, then it’s another sign you need to lose weight. This would be an ideal time to start a food journal, to see what you eat, and when, and what your daily caloric intake might be.


While your roommate was shrinking your swimsuit, did she also make all the kitchen chairs smaller, and the bathtub more narrow? If your body doesn’t fit into the furniture or the house quite the same way, this could be another sign you need to lose weight… or you have a very, very crafty and cruel roomie.


All of these signs you need to lose weigh pale in comparison to what your heart, and the rest of your body, is telling you. Listen to yourself… again, your inner voice may be trying to tell you something you just don’t want to hear.

If you’ve read this list, and three or more of these points sound very, painfully familiar (especially #4), it’s definitely time to consider beginning a serious weight loss journey. It’s not an easy realization, but it’s an important first step to a healthier, fitter, happier you! If you’ve lost weight, which of these signs helped get you going? Or was there another sign you need to lose weight that got you started?


People Pleasing, Are You Guilty? Stop Trying And Start Living For You!

It might be the double latte talking, but I’m totally fired up right now; I want to shake my people-pleaser self, look her in the eyes and tell her to STOP.


You can either go (emotionally) broke running around trying to please everyone, or you can spend your time creating, living and being AUTHENTIC to your own needs and desires. This is not new information — I’m sure countless blog posts exist on this topic  but it’s time for a reminder.

This post is a letter to myself. Believe me — I am not up on a high horse…I am laying underneath one about to get trampled if I don’t turn this issue around! This post is also dedicated to any other “givers” out there (Or some borderlines like me) who naturally get satisfaction from giving and making others happy.

It shows up in the pettiest, stupidest ways . . . all the way to much bigger fears and insecurities:

  • Worrying sometimes that if I don’t reply to every tweet blog or email that people will never write again…or worse, decide they dislike me because they interpret my non-responsiveness as bitchy
  • Worrying that if I don’t say yes to all plans/requests or have a “good reason” for saying no, that I will massively offend the person asking (even if I have no energy to do said thing and would probably be a drag anyway)
  • When I haven’t heard back from someone, wondering if I’ve done something to anger or offend, then over-analyzing until I do get some sort of sign that they don’t hate me
  • Accepting less-than-ideal behavior from people I date because I don’t want to rock-the-boat by speaking up (even though when I do, I ALWAYS feel better)
  • Wondering, after some social interactions, if I’ve “met expectations” or not — and have been cheerful/happy/engaged enough, or if I’ve disappointed the other person
  • Generally being way more lenient and understanding with others than I am with myself

The wake-up call

Although I’ve been making a great deal of progress over the years, I continue to learn the following lessons:

  • People-pleasing is exhausting. It is inauthentic. It means placing everyone else’s needs above your own.
  • You cannot make everyone happy all of the time, and it is futile to try.
  • You have two choices: you can spend your time worrying about other people, or you can bravely follow your own wants and needs.
  • The universe rewards backbone.
  • IT PAYS OFF to stick up for yourself, to say the hard truth, and to make the hard choices about where to spend your time and attention.
  • You are no good to anyone if you run yourself ragged trying to please everyone.
  • Start with yourself so that you can give back happily to those in your life who are worthy of your precious time, love and attention.

How to turn your attention inward:

  • Author Brene Brown suggests making a list of five Most Important People: ”the short list” — of those who really matter in your life, or as she puts it, “would help you move a body.” Keep that list in your wallet, and when you ruffle feathers or do something that invites “haters” out to play, ask yourself what the people on your short list would say. If they’re on board, not much else matters.
  • In her book, Steering by Starlight, Martha Beck suggests using a “shackles on” versus “shackles off” approach. Does this request/person/action weigh you down and feel tiresome or draining? Or does it feel exciting, energizing and uplifting? Whenever possible, make decisions based on the latter. Homework: over the course of the next week, ask yourself whether things feel shackles on or shackles off BEFORE making decisions.
  • Free E-course by Martha Beck Certified Coach Amy Pearson called “I Don’t Need Your Approval.”  Pearson lists six steps for overcoming approval addiction: mindfulness, compassion, analysis, courage, vigilance and “enjoy!”
  • Take a look at my other blog post : How to deal with Naysayers

    How do you scale back when you realize you’re people-pleasing or worrying too much about what others think? How do you re frame fear of rejection or the fear of letting people down? 



Source:Jenny Blake. Life After College.

Fantastic Map/ Newspaper Nail Art. Simple To Do At Home

Fantastic Map/ Newspaper Nail Art. Simple To Do At Home

Get these fantastic unique nails at home with these simple steps!

1.Paint your nails white/cream

2. Soak nails in alcohol for five minutes

3. Press nails to map/newspaper and hold

4. Paint with clear top coat immediately after it dries.

Voila! Hello swanky new nails! 


Natural Detox To Help Maintain A Flat Stomach

Why not give this refreshing detox water a try!

Its a natural detox that will help flush impurities out of your system helping you maintain a flat belly 🙂

2 Lemons

1/2 Cucumber

10-12 Mint Leaves


Leave overnight for a totally natural detox.

Keeping Your Bathroom Organised

Keeping Your Bathroom Organised


The first step toward achieving an organized bathroom is to remove the clutter.

This includes checking the medicine cabinet, linen closet, vanity cabinet and drawers and any other storage spaces you have in your bathroom.

Here is what you need to do:
Remove any items that do not belong in your bathroom. Put these items in the room where they belong.
get rid of any unwanted items from your bathroom and into their correct places

Dispose of expired medications. Contact your local pharmacy to find out how to properly dispose of the specific medications you have.
Dispose of old, unused or no longer wanted person items such as perfumes, make-up, moisturizers, etc.

Once your Bathroom has had a Thorough Clean, Be sure that you keep organization in mind when you are deciding where to put the items you keep in your bathroom. Use these guidelines.

The Medicine Cabinet
Since a medicine cabinet is typically limited in space, but very easy to get to, it should be reserved for items that are used very frequently.

The Vanity
Hairbrushes, Straightners and blow dryers fit nicely into most vanity drawers. Since these drawers are also easily accessible you should use them to store items that you use frequently.
Vanity cabinets are perfect for larger items such as extra towels and toiletries such as extra shampoo bottles or to keep your wastebasket out of sight. Place less frequently used items toward the back of the cabinet and more frequently used items in front.

The Linen Closet
If you are fortunate enough to have a linen closet in or near your bathroom, storage should never be an issue. Everything you need can be stored in a linen closet and it can all be easily accessible if you take the time to organize it.
Fold towels neatly on one shelf. Place supplies such as extra toilet paper and facial tissues on another. Use plastic totes to contain medicines, make-up and cleansers. Place more frequently used items in front and lesser used items in back.

Keep Your Bathroom Well Stocked
Keep your bathroom filled with the items required for that bathroom’s use. Make a note of what you may require to add to your ‘shopping essentials list’
a supply of toilet tissue, facial tissue and hand soap, require shampoo, conditioner, bath towels, washcloths and other toiletries used in your daily routine.
It is much easier to replace used supplies with fresh ones if the supplies are right there in the room and easy to grab. So as you are organizing your bathroom, be sure to find an appropriate home for the necessary supply stock.
Now that you have learned how to organize a bathroom, it will be much easier and you will spend less time cleaning.

Stressed? frustrated? don’t know where to start? live in North East England? give Your Maids a call, they are an eco-friendly cleaning service, all their products are safe for  use around children and pets. 

How To Survive A Bad Break Up.

How To Survive A Bad Break Up.

I recently went through a break up, though it was my decision to end the relationship, it was the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. I was only married for 2 years and now I’m getting a divorce. I had a lot of support from my family & friends and  it took a lot of strength and courage but I am happy with my decision and life has never been better for me, I really had the chance to find myself.

I also have a friend that’s recently broke up with her partner, it was a pretty bad break up and she is in pieces and it’s heartbreaking to see.  When I split from my husband I searched the internet for some self-help, It kept me busy and it helped me understand what was happening, so I thought I would share some of the information with anyone who is suffering or has suffered from a bad break up.

For me I would say distraction, self-help and family/ friends are key to a break up. I read books, started blogging, focused on work and did things that I wouldn’t usually do when I was with my husband. I hope this post helps 🙂

“Not Until We Are Lost Do We Begin To Understand Ourselves”

Few people think that their marriage will end when they’re making their wedding vows, but the sad reality is that 4 in 5 marriages now end in divorce.

Any break-up is difficult to get through and the longer you’ve been together, the tougher it is no matter how prepared you are. So if you need help, follow our expert guide on what to expect and tips on how to cope.

How to get over a break-up: you can move on after divorce

‘How you cope with the breakdown of your relationship depends so much on whether it was you who ended it or your partner,’ says Relate counsellor, Denise Knowles

If you ended your relationship: You will have gone through the scenario so many times in your head, made important decisions already about how you will lead your future life, already started to make plans, even. So dealing with the final split will probably be manageable.

If your partner ended it: You will probably be in shock and your emotions will yo-yo from deep despair to anger, anxiety to guilt or relief, even. It will take time to heal. It’s perfectly normal to mourn the loss of your partner and go through a grieving process before you can come out at the other end and begin to feel yourself again.

You may be feeling very raw at the moment if you’ve recently split from your partner, but remember there is life after divorce and thousands of people go on to have fulfilling new lives after splitting up. People recover at different times, some bounce back quicker than others, so take each day as it comes and take baby steps towards recovering.


One Month

How you may be feeling

Remember, it’s early days and you’ll probably be feeling very vulnerable emotionally, numb and in shock. Most people feel a rollercoaster of emotions now. You may feel:

  • Very angry and resentful as the dreams and hopes you had for your future are gone.
  • Embarrassed and ashamed that what you thought was a solid marriage is over. You may not want to share your feelings with others.
  • In denial that the relationship has actually ended. You can’t imagine life without your partner and feel complete loss.
  • Guilty. That somehow it was your fault, even if it wasn’t.


How to get over a break-up: expert tip

Denise Knowles, Relate Counsellor says: ‘Don’t worry. All these very different reactions are perfectly normal. A relationship split is like a bereavement.

You may feel huge loss, be in complete shock, feel numb and long for what you had. Hundreds of questions keep running through your head.

Or you may be filled with anger towards your partner, and blame them for ruining everything. You’ll be shattered both emotionally and physically so don’t push yourself too hard.’

Key steps to take

  • You need good support at this stage. Do talk to someone close to you, a friend or family member. It will help keep things in perspective.
  • Don’t beat yourself up. Just because your relationship is over, doesn’t mean that you were wrong to trust your partner or that it was your fault.
  • Don’t push yourself too hard. Try not to worry if housework isn’t finished or the ironing is piling up. You really need this time for yourself.


2 Month

How you may be feeling


  • Your emotions will still be see-sawing. You may have started to sort out the practical elements of your split, such as childcare and work, but not dealt with how you really feel.
  • Your confidence may be low and you could feel depressed.
  • You may feel scared and that you could never trust again.
  • You’ll feel drained. All the emotional upset really does take its toll on your energy levels.

How to get over a break-up: expert tip

Denise from Relate says: ‘Keep some things familiar, so you know where you’re at. This isn’t the time to make rash, knee-jerk decisions – such as moving away – even if you feel like that would be the solution.

Having some routines you’re used to will help you get through the bad times. The pain still remains inside you, no matter how far you move away. Allow yourself time to gather strength before making any major decisions.’

Key steps to take

  • Deal with the anger. If it’s still eating you up you need to quash it now. Anger often masks what we’re really feeling ? scared and sad. If you can let go of it you can start to move on.
  • Keep talking. Try to open up to friends and family about how you feel.
  • Avoid the blame game. If you keep questioning what went wrong? Why? How? What did I do wrong? you get locked into more bitterness and heartache.
  • Look at what you think may have gone wrong. It will be painful, but try writing your thoughts down or talking them through with someone you can trust. It will really help you move on.


3 Month

How you may be feeling

  • Lacking in confidence. A break-up can really give your self esteem a knock.
  • Worried about your future and overwhelmed by the decisions you have to make.
  • You’ll probably feel more able now though to open up and talk more freely about your feelings.

How to get over a break-up: expert tip

Denise from Relate says: ‘It’s so important to tell your children the right way. Your children, if you have them, are the most important issue you will have to deal with during the divorce. They have to live through this split too and it can be a very difficult time for them.

Show a united front when explaining the break-up to them. Speak to your partner first and decide on what you are going to say. Don’t put each other down in front of the children. Explain that mummy and daddy can’t live together any more, but that they both love you very much and want to be with you whenever possible.’

Key steps to take

  • Keep looking after yourself. You may be finding it difficult to sleep as thoughts and questions play over and over in your mind. You may not be eating properly either and so your emotional state can impact on your general health. Take a multivitamin daily and try to grab sleep if and when you can.
  • See your GP for support. anti-depressants can help short-term if you’re feeling very low and are particularly good when used in conjunction with talking therapy/counselling.
  • Start to prioritise. You’ll probably feel ready now to at least address practical problems. Where you will live, arrangements for the children and finances so see a solicitor for advice or visit Divorce Aid for free independent help, legal and emotional advice.


6 Month

How you may be feeling

  • There’s some space in your mind now to start sorting through your emotions.
  • You may be starting to feel a bit stronger now, physically and mentally. You’re not so exhausted.
  • You’re still grieving, but the pain is maybe not as acute as it was.

How to get over a break-up: expert tip

Denise from Relate says: ‘Talking therapy would really help now. You’ll need someone you can talk to confidentially, so it may be wise to look outside family and friends and seek a counsellor’s advice.

You may feel bad if you blamed your partner and not feel able to rant in front of a friend, or not want your children to hear that you’re upset. You can be completely truthful about your feelings with a qualified counsellor. Contact Relate for your nearest branch on 0300 100 1234.’

Key steps to take

  • Make time to relax – whether going for a walk or taking a long bath, do whatever works to help you wind down. It’s really important to try to get rid of stress to help you cope with day to day problems.
  • Take baby steps – when you feel low it can seem like you’re getting nowhere and that any task you have to do is impossible to achieve. Make things achievable by taking small steps and setting small goals. It will give you a great confidence boost once you feel you have achieved something.
  • See your friends – you may not feel like letting your hair down right now, but force yourself to go out and have a laugh with your mates. It really is the best medicine.


1 Year

How you may be feeling

  • Your confidence may be lifting
  • You’ll probably be starting to accept your new status and your friends and family will be acknowledging the new you too.
  • You won’t be wanting to talk about your split all the time now.

How to get over a break-up: expert tip

Denise Knowles from Relate says: ‘It takes time for friends and family to get their heads around the changes in your life too. Around now they’ll be acknowledging your new status and have sorted out how they feel about the break-up. They feel they don’t have to walk on eggshells any more.’

Key steps to take

  • Plan ahead – write down a list of the things you’re going to do once you get through this difficult patch. Stick it on the fridge and when you feel low it will give you a lift.
  •  Fancy dating? There’s no right time to start dating, and after a divorce it can be a daunting prospect. But if you do feel like you’d like to meet someone, take it gently and start by meeting up with a group of people – men and women – first. Dating agencies can be a great way to meet someone safely.
  • Learn skills to help you re-build your life by joining a course. Relate runs: Moving forward: after a divorce or break-up. You’ll meet others who are going through break-ups and get loads of help on how to cope with your emotions and learn why relationships go wrong and how to have better relationships. Find out more at Relate

    Stay Positive, I promise it will get better… in the meantime take a look at my post 8 Reasons its great to be single and embrace your new status! 🙂



Organising And Keeping Your Child’s Room Tidy

Children need a quiet place to calm themselves down at the end of a busy day.

Organize your child’s room and then encourage them to help you keep it that way.

If there is less clutter for distraction, you will find that it is easier to get them to settle down during bedtime – or anytime they need a break.

Make sure you get your kids in on the action when you organize their bedroom. Have them help you so that they understand how you expect their room to look. This way, when you assign them chores in order to keep their bedrooms clean, they will know exactly what to do.

Declutter Keep toys to a minimum.

Make sure you have adequate shelving or storage space for the toys and make it a house rule that all toys must be put away each night before bedtime.

Grab anything that belongs in another room in the house. Move these items to the appropriate room.

Take a careful look around the room for clutter.

Don’t forget to check the closet. Clutter includes outgrown toys and clothes, and all unused or unwanted items.

Move all of these items to Clutter Central.

Dispose of rubbish or recycling.

The Clean Sweep

Now that your child’s room is clutter-free it will be much easier to clean. Now is the perfect time for a thorough cleaning.

Strip the bed and wash the bedding.

Remake the bed with fresh, clean sheets.

Remove all dirty laundry from the room.

Wash and dry it all and then have your child help you put it all away.

If your child does not have a laundry hamper, get one.

Teaching your child to put dirty clothes into a hamper is an easy way to help teach them to keep their room more organized.

If there are clean clothes laying around your child’s room that have not been folded and put away have your child help you do that now.

Take window curtains down and throw them in the dryer to remove dust.

Wash the windows and blinds.

Vacuum, including using the crevice attachment to get into the corners and along the walls and use the extension attachment to clear dust and cobwebs from the ceiling.

Dust all surfaces, headboard, footboard, and knick knacks

Wash the overhead light fixture and ceiling fan blades.

Simple Maintenance

Now that you have taken the time to organize and thoroughly clean your child’s bedroom, enlist the help of your kids to keep it that way. Here are some rules to follow:

Have your children make their beds every morning.

Have your children put all their toys, books or games away before going to bed each night.

Teach your children to place their dirty clothes in their laundry to keep it off of their bedroom floor.

When you do laundry, put your children in charge of putting their own clothes away.

Be sure to wash the bed sheets at least once per week.

Children can be in charge of stripping their own beds and bringing the bedding to the laundry room.

If they are old enough, they can also remake their own beds.

Vacuum and dust thoroughly at least once each week.

If your children are old enough, they can do this themselves. It is a good idea to use a chore chart, especially for younger children, to help your kids remember and be responsible for the tasks you ask them to accomplish.