The Discriminating Doc: My Experience With Stigma And A Mental Health Professional

The Discriminating Doc: My Experience With Stigma And A Mental Health Professional

Bridget Of The North:

I feel I need to reblog this post after I received some discrimination today by a GP at my own surgery. I am absolutely mortified to think these people exist in the mental health profession. I was told the physical pain I have been living with the past few months was all psychological ( I never mentioned any mental health issues, he’d read my file and he mentioned to me that he had)
I was patronised and he didn’t believe a word I said, his parting words to me were ‘The best thing you can do is keep taking your meds and see a psychologist’

Wow thanks, great advice, I wonder why these things have never crossed my mind! It’s all so clear now. *sarcasm*,

It makes me wonder what these people say when you leave the room, or how many other people believe this nonsense because the ‘GP knows best’.

I was already disliked before I walked into the room, this doctor had no empathy for what I was going through and if anything, triggered my mental health issues. with his derogatory attitude and belittling comments .

If only his perception of BPD acknowledged the caring, intelligence and sensitivity of many who are pushed into this diagnosis group.


I have penned an open letter and sent it to my surgery

Dear Surgery,

I received some discrimination  by a GP (DR OLLEY) yesterday at my surgery (Village Green Practise).

I have Borderline Personality Disorder and I feel like I was already disliked before I walked into the room, this doctor had no empathy for what I was going through and if anything, triggered my mental health issues. with his derogatory attitude and belittling comments. I am absolutely mortified to think these people exist in the mental health profession.

I’m aware of the stigma towards BPD and how people pay attention to the more negative traits associated with BPD, including being called ‘attention seekers’ ‘manipulative’ ‘deceptive’ ‘demanding’ regularly within the medical profession. I think this Doctor had a lack of understanding for my condition, which is common.

I was told the physical pain I have been living with the past few months was all psychological. I never mentioned any mental health issues, he’d read my file and he mentioned to me that he had and he was aware of my mental health problems.

I understand that stress and mental health problems can affect periods, fertility etc and I have been experiencing heightened anxiety recently which I am dealing with. But I always have done, I don’t remember a time in my life I didn’t have to deal with the same issues regarding my mental health.

I was patronised and he didn’t believe a word I said, his parting words to me were ‘The best thing you can do is keep taking your meds and see a psychologist’ I didn’t visit about that!

I went in to talk about fertility, I have missed 2 periods and have had pain and discomfort for a few months and pelvic pain which at one point I went to A & E as it was very painful, I still have discomfort and  I was worried it was all related.

He told me that in my file, when I went to the hospital the doctors there had said that ‘there was no problems and I was just ‘upset’

I would like to add that on this occasion, I had waited in a waiting room for 5 hours after being sent there a following a 1 hour wait in a walk in centre.

Eventually, I was given some advice, reassurance and a pregnancy test and sent on my way. I was in pain for weeks thereafter and pelvic pain was very uncomfortable and embarrassing to have to talk about as I have had to get many internals and prodding and poking around in a private part of my body.
At the time, having to explain this to various doctors at the hospital was pretty humiliating but the pain was bad. If I had only went because I was ‘upset’ or seeking attention and being dramatic, then the 5 hour wait with no medical attention would have certainly put me off. But I waited as I was worried. After yesterday, I now think, did they not believe me either? Is it true what they said? Can I trust any of these professionals? Or is it just the opinion of this narrow-minded doctor?

I kindly insisted Dr Olley refer me to the scan that I had been advised to have , which he did but told me he didn’t think there would be a problem, so didn’t see the point. He also questioned the advice of the DR that took my first scan (and recommended a second) , saying it made no sense.

I mentioned my mother has had fertility and ovarian problems similar when she was younger, which gave me concerns and he said ‘Well why does she keep telling you that? Is she a medical professional?’

Towards the end of my appointment after being patronised, I asked what about the pain and discomfort, will it show on the scan if there’s a problem related to this he simply said No.
I asked what I should do then, he said again its all physiological, come back when the pain is so bad you can’t get on with your daily activities and its making serious impact on your life.

It makes me wonder what these people say when you leave the room, or how many other patients in my position believe this nonsense from these type of Doctors, because they have faith in the caregivers or system.

If only his perception of BPD acknowledged the caring, intelligence and sensitivity of many who are pushed into this diagnosis group.At first it made me question everything I have learnt so far, I actually doubted myself for a minute and became a little angry and upset by it. I felt like a monster again, like the first day I got diagnosed and I Googled Borderline Personality Disorder and seen the negative blogs, websites and forums and seen the terrible things that people had to say about this type of disorder.

But then I gathered my thoughts and realised that actually, I have been treated. I have attended therapy for years, helped many others through blogging and have over 300,000 hits. through this. I thought about when I was finally offered help via the mental health team and finally given the right coping strategies and tools to work with, I slowly learnt how to better regulate my emotions and manage my reactions and moods.

I certainly don’t feel like I did back then and have a better understanding of BPD, meaning that I know the triggers and how to handle them.

I have researched BPD for years, So I’m aware of what people think…but what I can say is that when I have had problems it is because I have genuinely felt pain, If I ever attempted suicide it was not for attention as I was genuinely debating whether to go through with it or not, If I needed a doctor I needed to see one, just like everyone else.

I don’t get angry like I used to, I don’t cut, I live as normal a life as possible and function well and I am part of the community like everyone else. I wouldn’t have been able to do so without the therapy or treatment I received and all the hard work I have put in. I could probably teach this General Practitioner a thing or two about mental health and BPD.

I felt the need to write this as when I got home last night, I sobbed. I had a moment of weakness and was upset and again feel like I can’t trust the Doctors and felt discriminated against. I am still concerned over the issues I went in with. If there is no problem with my concerns, then peace of mind or reassurance would have done.

For the people with mental health problems that have not got the coping strategies and cannot recognise when things could go wrong or how to control their feelings or reactions, this would have triggered an episode. So It could not be left unsaid.

Originally posted on Bridget Of The North:

I have previously added a post relating to the Stigma towards BPD (Common Misconceptions And Myths Attached To BPD, Lets Get a Few Things Straight!. )

I’m going to share with you something that has made my blood boil for the past 2 days…

So I was talking to this guy recently, just general chit chat.  He is a mental health worker in a Crisis Unit in a Hospital. We got onto the subject of me studying mental health and completing my course and I mentioned that I would like to concentrate on some specialised learning in Personality Disorders because it really interests me.

See, I would like to do some charity work as when I was diagnosed, leading up to it and after the diagnosis,  I wasn’t happy with the care I received from the NHS and I  felt fobbed off. I know a LOT of people who feel the same…

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Why I’m so ready for Autumn.

Why I’m so ready for Autumn.

Ahh,  Autumn is near. My favourite time of the year. I am so ready for you.

Amongst the dark chilly nights, foggy mornings & colourful leaves, Here are some of the reasons I LOVE Autumn!

Snuggling in Front of the Fire

Grab your hot chocolate, put on some candles and light the fire.  Cosy nights are ahead of us.


Home made meals

The temperature has dropped, its time to put the stew in the slow cooker and look forward to getting home and tucking in to a lovely hot meal.


Hot Coffee and Hot Chocolate

There’s nothing better than nipping into your local Costa for a delicious hot drink to warm you up on chilly day.


Scarves & Boots

Its time to bring out my favourite fashion items; Scarves & Boots. I’m obsessed with scarves & boots and cant wait to invest in some new ones for my collection. I always feel better in my cosy clothing and long boots instead of trying to squeeze into some shorts and some uncomfortable sandles.


The smell of home; Candles

Nothing will ever replace the soothing scent and soft glow of a candle in a dark space. There’s nothing more comforting than a soft light that illuminates a room.


Reading Time

I love a good book, I find myself reading a lot more in the snuggly cold nights.


Crunchy Autumn Leaves

Enough Said.



The only time of year you get to show your true weirdness without being judged. Eat as many sweets as you like without guilt & have fun making your children’s costume and treating them with goodies and apple bobbing.


Bonfire Night

FIREWORKS! I get totally blown away by fireworks, I don’t know what it is they just memorize me, I love them. Gathering around a bonfire with sparklers, toffee apples and hot dogs, wrapping up warm and waiting for the big show it loved ones is just the best feeling.

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The Christmas Countdown

You know its coming, Your writing your lists. Next on the list its wonderful winter.96c4e0ebd2ee371f0964ba00243127d0

Dates for your diary:

Wednesday, September 23- Autumn  2015 begins

and ends on
Monday, December 21

25 October 2015 – Daylight Saving Time Ends

When local daylight time is about to reach
Sunday, 25 October 2015, 02:00:00 clocks are turned backward 1 hour to
Sunday, 25 October 2015, 01:00:00 local standard time instead

Are Hair Extensions right for you? What do you need to do to look after them?

Are Hair Extensions right for you? What do you need to do to look after them?

My love affair with extensions began  years ago, and I’ve adored them since. Going longer can be a pretty big step and quite a commitment: the results are dependent on the type of extensions and the system used to apply them. But with a silly amount of choice out there, how do you figure out what’s right for you? and whether you can look after them.

Here is my latest set, as you can see its a MASSIVE difference, this was just 150 strands! You can get the look for just £170 from Blondie Locks Hair Extensions in Newcastle (which is where most of the information for this post is from, its so helpful!)

How much hair do I need?



Pre- Fitting
Everyone should attend a consultation appointment. This will include;

  • A colour match
  • Selecting the best hair extension method for your hair
  • Arrange a time & date for fitting
  • A non refundable deposit will be required
  • You will receive a clarifying shampoo to use before your fitting.

Things to consider before fitting…….
To be able to have hair extensions, your natural hair should be a minimum of 3-4 inches in length, just about long enough to put into a ponytail. Ideally, the longer your hair, the easier it is to blend the natural hair with the hair extensions.

Do you have a bob or a blunt cut? If so, you may not be able to have hair extensions. Your natural hair needs to be point cut and thinned towards the ends, prior to application to get  the best possible visual result

If you have given birth in the last 3 months or are pregnant, we can not apply hair extensions due to the hair thinning and hair loss that is often experienced after the baby is born.

At the consultation you can decide on what hair would be best, and to get a colour match to suit your hair colour to perfection using one or more colours.

If your hair has any chemical process like colour or perming, this will have to be done 4-7 days prior to having the extensions fitted. After the extensions are fitted, you will still be able to have your hair coloured, as long as care is taken to stay away from the extension bonds or you could risk needing new hair from the damage. It is advised you have this chemical process completed by a professional to obtain the longevity of the hair.

If you are happy to go ahead with the hair extensions and would like to book an appointment, a non-refundable deposit is usually required.
Hair extensions can take between 3 – 5 hours to apply a full head. This includes preparation of your natural hair, the application of the extensions & blending  of the hair, to achieve the ultimate look you desire.

After you have had your consultation and are happy to go ahead with having the extensions fitted do not dye your hair. This will effect the colour match and affect how the extensions stay in the hair.

Wash your hair the day before you are due to have your extensions fitted, use only a clarifying shampoo (supplied)  to completely remove any styling products or residue off your hair. Do not put any conditioner in your hair or any further products in your hair afterwards as this can cause the bonds to fail. Conditioner and other after care products coat the hair in a silky substance which can cause the bond/micro ring to not stick to your own hair and slip.

Do not have your hair trimmed just before your fitting as a natural look rather than a blunt cut will blend in better with your extensions.

Daily Routine

-Upon waking, brush hair and freshen up with straighteners if necessary (heat styling is not bad for hair extensions, it will improve the appearance of the hair and make it silkier, however it is highly recommended to use a good quality hair straightener such as GHD or Cloud 9 and a heat protection spray.

-Before bed brush hair with hair extension brush then apply Argan Oil into mid lengths-ends of hair. Do this every evening. Throughout the day the hair extensions are exposed to heat, wind, sun and they receive no natural nutrients from our scalp like our own hair does so it is very important to rehydrate and replenish them with treatment oil.
-Put hair in low loose plait for sleeping

-Wash once or twice a week with hair extension shampoo and conditioner (supplied in your aftercare pack)

After-care Instructions

I not recommend colouring, tint or perming the extension hair. These types of products contain elements that can damage the extension hair. Even if the hair extensions  are 100% human hair, it is not receiving nutrients from the scalp like your own natural hair. The more heat you use on the hair extension the shorter the lifespan of the hair.

Treat your extensions with the same respect as you would with your own natural hair. Superior aftercare and regular maintenance will keep your hair feeling and looking great for longer.

The first thing that you may notice is that immediately after the installation of the extensions, and for the next day or two your scalp may feel tender. This is normal and will go away by the third day at the most. Rest assured that this is not a sign of a problem but just because of the added weight of the hair.

Tie your hair back in a loose ponytail or plait using a soft scrunchie for bed. Never wear your extensions for longer than 3 months. In the 3 months of wearing your extensions your hair will have grown by approx 1.5 inches, the roots of your hair often start to tangle together if you have not separated the bonds correctly and therefore it is not healthy for the hair if left.

Please Note:- Lighter Shades have a bleach content therefore will not last as long in life span as non bleached hair. The lighter shades will need extra care and less heat application to increase the lifespan.

Products such as hairspray and mousse will dry out your hair extensions and can destroy them.


Your extensions should only be washed a maximum of twice per week, dry shampoo can be used at the roots of the natural hair to absorb excess oil

Do not to wash your hair for at least 5 days after having your extensions fitted. This will give the bonds plenty of time to set and avoid hair shedding from the bonds later on.

Before washing it is advised to detangle your extension hair with a wide tooth comb and separate the bonds.

It is essential you only use shampoo and conditioner supplied by us in your aftercare pack, as any other products that haven’t been approved by your stylist may ruin the hair extensions and dry them out! Your stylist will not be held responsible for this. Extra Shampoo and conditioner can be bought by contacting us.

When washing your hair, do not tip your head over the bath as this could cause tangling – always wash with your head upright – in the shower is ideal. Smooth the Blondie Locks shampoo down the extension hair – do not rub vigorously. Only condition from the mid lengths to the end of the hair. Do not apply any conditioner to the bonds as this will cause slippage.

You can pick the top section of your own hair up and apply condition to this section. Pat hair gently when washed – do not rub.

Do not brush the hair when wet.

If hair extensions dry out it is because you haven’t followed our correct aftercare and/or haven’t used recommended  shampoo and conditioner. We will not be held responsible on hair being damaged.

Do not use Xten/X10, it will make your hair extensions feel dry, tatty and damage the bonds.


After washing with the Blondie Locks Shampoo and Conditioner, follow by detangling with a wide tooth comb, making sure you avoid the bonds. Make sure all bonds are dried completely. Be very careful when brushing the hair when wet, make sure you support the extensions hair by holding the bonds.

For a sleek finish, section your hair off and blow dry using a round brush with soft bristles. Be very careful that you do not snag the bonds. Finish by using a good quality straightening iron.

Heated Rollers, Straightening Irons, crimpers and tongs can all be used on the extension hair although it is advisable only to use heat protection sprays, Serums, gels etc that are recommended or supplied by your extensionist, other products may contain ingredients that may do more damage than good.


Remember your extensions are attached to your own natural hair, pulling too hard or mistreating your extensions can result in your own hair being pulled out. The only brush you should use near to your extension bonds is an extension brush. When brushing the extensions always hold the bonds, making sure no additional stress is put on the hair.

Day to Day Activities

If you use a sunbed it is advisable to wrap the hair in a towel first. Sun beds can dry out the hair and melt the bonds. If you work out regularly or have regular use of a sauna or steam room make sure the bonds are completely dried as soon as possible after your session – leaving the bonds in a constant damp environment could cause them to deteriorate.

I do not advise getting Hair Extensions if you are pregnant or for one year after having a baby as hormonal hair loss during and after pregnancy can be accelerated by wearing hair extensions.

When working out or doing any exercise that can make you sweat you will need to wash your hair immediately afterwards as your bodies salt can dry your hair extensions out.

Swimming & Holidays

I do not recommend that you swim with your extensions, however if you do, I advise you take the following precautions

Place long extension hairstyle into a braid, using a covered band.

Avoid getting extension hair wet when swimming. Keep your head above the water, do not swim under water and no diving.

The chlorine in pools and salt in the sea combined with heat can cause the extension hair to discolour and matt. Chlorine, pool chemicals and salt will cause the keratin bonds to break down and disintegrate which will result in the loss of the extension hair if the pre bonded or micro loop system is used as they both contain a bond or micro bond.

If the extensions do get wet during this activity dry extension hair immediately after swimming, ensuring first you rinse the hair in fresh water.

Do not brush extension hair when wet, dry immediately. Ensure that Extension hair is tangle free after swimming.

Do not sleep with wet hair extensions, ensure they are dry before you head for bed.

Do not use a sunbed while wearing hair extensions as this will dry them out.

Holidays abroad in the sun will dry out extensions. I recommend you try and keep them covered this may not protect them though or remove them while abroad. The water also in different contains chemicals that are not good for the hair some hotels (places abroads) have boilers that have water softeners, the salt breaks down the bonds and drys out the hair.

The Importance of Good Aftercare

It is crucial that you make the most of your extensions by taking good care of them and using the correct products.

Correct aftercare is just as important as fitting the extensions correctly. Many people try to save money on aftercare by watering down regular shampoo’s/conditioners etc to “make do” which can have really disastrous results such as dryness, matting and dullness in the extensions.

Hair extensions are a great way to change your look but they do require some maintenance and care. Once you have had your extensions fitted your stylist will guide you through how best to look after your new hair. Hair extensions often cost a lot of money and can take a while to attach, so it is in your interest to look after them properly.

With your new hair extensions you won’t need to wash your hair as much as you would normally. You shouldn’t need to wash your hair any more than twice a week as any more than this can put too much stress on the extensions due to excessive heat styling etc.

It is important to only use a shampoo and conditioner recommended for hair extensions. This is because many of the standard high street brands contain high volumes of sodium chloride (salt) which will dry out your hair and silicone based ingredients which can cause the bonds to weaken and break down. Loose bonds will cause the extensions to fall out – so either way it is a lose – lose situation.

You also need to keep your hair in really good condition by using a moisturising conditioner. However, you need to make sure that the conditioner does not come close to the actual bonds as this can also cause the bonds to weaken.

Once you have washed your hair you need to take extra care when drying and styling it. The hair is at its weakest when wet so ensure it is dried gently and handled carefully. Hair extensions will last longer and look better for longer when properly taken care of so it is well worth taking the extra time to get it right.

When brushing your hair, make sure you are using a hair extension brush as this is specifically designed for your extensions. Other brushes with balls on the ends can rip and break the hair. You need to keep your extensions tangle free by brushing your hair up to two times a day, but avoid over-brushing as this can cause unnecessary shedding.

It is perfectly normal to lose some hairs when brushing, remember most people actually lose up to 100 hairs a day! You are actually doing less damage to your hair by having extensions as you aren’t using heat directly onto your own hair.
Deepwave and Bodywave Aftercare

The deep wave hair can be brushed when it is wet and must be left to dry naturally, as it is drying you need to twist the hair round your finger to get it back into shape.

The body wave hair must be blow dried back into shape with a round hair brush

Both types can not be brushed when they are dry. Most of the colours are custom made, this takes approx 1 month to produce,

The curl last really well, if you do the correct after care the hair should last about 4 months.

How would you react to racist hate?

How would you react to racist hate?

I love this video so thought I should share it. As frightening as the comments are, they showed perfectly how we should respond to hate. Everytime you find humour in a difficult situation, you win.


Muslims Read Hate Comments A daycare at the mosque burnt down. People commented their thoughts. You won’t believe the reaction to this tragedy.

Posted by Peace House on Tuesday, 5 May 2015

Writing your online dating profile? Take a look at these tips.

Writing your online dating profile? Take a look at these tips.

Be Honest. Always. Don’t lie about your height, age or weight: you’ll be found out soon enough. Don’t pretend to have a better job than you do, or that you’re more prepared for long-term commitment than you currently are. You don’t need to share all your dirty little secrets in your profile, but don’t create an awkward situation for yourself if it does lead to something.

How are you?’ is not a conversation starter. Try picking something you found interesting from my profile and asking me specifically about that.

Choose action shots: Wouldn’t you know, profile photos that demonstrate you playing your guitar or downhill skiing – even if your face isn’t showing – get more messages.

Get Over yourself. Don’t demand that your future partner love, worship, and adore you. Don’t list the qualities you believe you want. Instead, focus on what you have to offer. If you provide a list of dating rules or expectations, you wont be very popular.

Don’t do text speak. Just don’t. KK?

Never go into stalk mode. Sometimes guys just don’t take the hint. If we have chatted and nothing came of it, then a few weeks later you message again and we exchange a message or two. Lets not waste anymore time. “NEXT!”

Please ask about me. If you are not interested in what I have to say via messages, then I’m not likely to meet you in person for a meeting about how fantastic you are.

Never use your profile to write about the ex. Or about sex. Keep in mind the rules of first-date conversation and apply them to how you introduce yourself to strangers online, too.

Stay positive: Avoid negative tones and always be positive about yourself. Your profile is essentially your dating CV. You wouldn’t want a future employer to read anything negative, so why would you want a potential partner to read anything that isn’t positive?

Guys,If there is a female in your picture, you don’t look available or you look like a player. Guys, please stop using pictures of you and just one other woman. Oh, she’s your friend? Okay, yeah, whatever.

Don’t be pushy.  If you send someone a message and they reply to you with a “thanks, but no thanks” or they don’t bother replying at all, don’t try to convince them that you are the right person for them. They may change their mind on their own accord, but sending messages to them will make you seem scary.

Fill in every bit of your profile. Try to fill in as much information about yourself as possible, without writing an essay. Think about what your likes and dislikes are and what is important to you. Otherwise, how else will you become my future hubby?.

Don’t be weird, rude or sleazy. Enough said.

Check out my other posts.

Pimping your online dating profile.

How to write a dating profile and things you need to know.

S.A.D. Singles Awareness Day, The Alternative To Valentines Day For Singles.

S.A.D. Singles Awareness Day, The Alternative To Valentines Day For Singles.

Well, it’s the 13th of February and only 1 more sleep until Valentines Day!

According to Wikipedia its  ’A day for celebrating love and affection between intimate companions’

It is traditionally a day on which lovers express their love for each other by presenting flowers, chocolates, jewellery and other gifts, including engagement rings in many cases.

But for singletons, its S.A.D  ’Singles Awareness Day’ On Singles Awareness Day, single people can choose whether to celebrate or commiserate their single status, this is usually done in groups of people or friends. Some people  want to remind romantic couples that they don’t need to be in a relationship to celebrate life .

So gather up your we will  get together treat yourselves, drink cocktails and have fun to celebrate your single status! There are plenty of options available so there’s no reason to be alone on V.DAY or S.A.D!

So, what could you be doing on S.A.D ? 

Why not have a look at local events in your area, there are many places that hold singles night’s and fun parties and hosted events for those of us in singletown!

Or if you are feeling unsociable because you don’t have anybody to spoil this Valentine’s Day, why not take it as an opportunity to spoil yourself? No-one deserves it more!  Treat yourself to a bit of pampering, cook yourself a nice meal or have a relaxing bath with candles and a glass of champagne. With no one else’s feelings to consider, you’re free to spend the day doing whatever you want and to make it a special day just for you.

Alternatively, If there’s someone you’ve got your eye on and you think they may be interested too, why not take Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to express your interest? Send an old-fashioned anonymous card or just a flirty email and set the wheels in motion.

Or you could always sign up for online dating!

Plenty Of Fish – POF is FREE and it’s the number one dating site and is still growing. The site grows, on average, 30% every year! 32 million members, 15 million messages sent per day, 30 000 new sign ups per day, and over 1.16 million average daily visits per month!

Or Perhaps try Tinder  it’s the fun way to connect with new and interesting people around you. Swipe right to like or left to pass. If someone likes you back, it’s a match! If they don’t, neither of you will ever know.

What are you waiting for?? Let the thought of a potential new romance brighten up your day!

You can get some handy tips for your first online profile from my post Here & Here

Or why not take a look at A Single Girls To Do List

Whatever it is you decide to do on 14th of February, Don’t forget to Love yourself!

Thrifty Valentine Idea. Give Your Loved One A Break, Absolutely FREE!

Thrifty Valentine Idea. Give Your Loved One A Break, Absolutely FREE!

If you are struggling to come up with the best and most cost-effective Valentines gifts, here is your saviour.

Give the gift of time for free! With us all tightening our belts and with only a few days left to think of a great present that your other half deserves, it is likely that you’ve started worrying about what you’re going to do?!

When it comes to the perfect gifts is your mind totally blank?  Why not give a gift with a difference? A Gift of Time!

Why not give your Partner a break whilst you do all the Dirty Work! You could Do the Washing, Clean the House..Fix that tap that has been dripping for months, Run her a relaxing bath or clean his car!..

Bridget of the north love coupons, houseworkOr Why Not get creative and make a Chore Cheque Book?  they make a wonderful gift for that special person in your life. Create them by hand or use print some Chore coupons, they are  completely free and easy to use.7
You can  cut out the coupon’s that you want to use, and staple them into a little booklet. Or Hide them around the house for your other half to find! Chore coupons have no expiration date and can be used at any time.