I have previously added a post relating to the Stigma towards BPD (Common Misconceptions And Myths Attached To BPD, Lets Get a Few Things Straight!. )
I’m going to share with you something that has made my blood boil for the past 2 days…
So I was talking to this guy that I was really getting on with, we shared laughs and seemed to have a lot in common. He is a mental health worker in a Crisis Unit in a Hospital. We got onto the subject of me studying mental health and completing my course and I mentioned that I would like to concentrate on some specialised learning in Personality Disorders because it really interests me.
See, I would like to do some charity work as when I was diagnosed, leading up to it and after the diagnosis, I wasn’t happy with the care I received from the NHS and I felt fobbed off. I know a LOT of people who feel the same way.I feel that the charities I received help from helped me so much more and actually cared for me as a person.
His response to learning about PD was…
‘ooh no, you wouldn’t like it. One thing I don’t like is PD, you can’t really treat them in our places you just have to not feed into them’
When I asked why he replied
‘It’s just attention seeking and manipulation, you get some really clever ones..so don’t fall for their shit. They will self harm and attempt suicide but not enough to kill themselves, just enough to make a scene and then they get off on it’
I told him that surely that would mean that they need the most help then. He then said
“‘Nope, they can only help themselves, there is no medication for them’
I was really upset and appalled that someone in that line of work could react like that, I am disgusted at the negative attitude of this ‘professional’. The stereotypical views and the discrimination against any mental health issue; let alone PD can cause great harm to a person. If this is the mind-set of someone working in a mental health emergency room then what hope is there for the rest of us?
At first it made me question everything I have learnt so far, I actually doubted myself for a minute and became a little angry and upset by it. I felt like a monster again, like the first day I got diagnosed and I Googled Borderline Personality Disorder and seen the negative blogs, websites and forums and seen the terrible things that people had to say about this type of disorder.
But then I gathered my thoughts and realised that actually, I have been treated. I have attended therapy for years and once I was taken seriously and finally given the right coping strategies and tools to work with, I slowly learnt how to better regulate my emotions and manage my reactions and moods.
I certainly don’t feel like I did back then and have a better understanding of BPD, meaning that I know the triggers and how to handle them. I haven’t had a breakdown for over a year, I don’t attempt suicide, in the past when I felt suicidal I don’t think it was for attention as I was genuinely debating whether to go through with it or not.
I don’t get angry like I used to, I don’t cut, I live as normal a life as possible and function well and I am part of the community like everyone else. I wouldn’t have been able to do so without the therapy or treatment I received and all the hard work I have put in.
So I think this guy, the ‘Mental Health Worker’ shouldn’t be in this job, maybe its time for a career change.
BPD CAN be treat and in time our episodes become fewer and further apart.
I am the proof. I am not that stereotype, though maybe I would have been if I hadn’t had treatment. I’m still ME.